Mother-Daughter Relationships with Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney

Foster care is a journey that holds both deep brokenness and incredible beauty. For many families, it can also feel overwhelming to know how to step in and support children from hard places.

In this episode, Meredith Brock, CEO of Proverbs 31 Ministries and a foster and adoptive mom, shares insights from her familys experience with foster care and how the journey has shaped her faith and motherhood. The conversation explores the realities of caring for vulnerable children, the tension of holding both joy and heartbreak, and the ways God often meets families in their most difficult moments.

Together they talk about what it looks like to support children with hard stories, how foster care can refine and stretch a familys faith, and why the church has such an important role in caring for these kids.

Its also a reminder that supporting the foster care system isnt limited to becoming a foster parent. Whether through respite care, advocacy, or supporting families already in the system, there are meaningful ways we can all step in and help.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Background

05:53 The Call to Foster Care

11:57 The Importance of Community Support

17:58 Respite Care and Community Involvement

24:07 Personal Growth Through Foster Care

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Resources from todays show:

Connect with Meredith

Connect with Proverbs 31 on Instagram

Proverbs 31 Ministries

Foster the Family 

Open a LearningRX center

Sign up for Morning Minute

Christian Parenting

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But Jesus looked at them and said, With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26 ESV)

Jairus was a synagogue leader and a man of status and faith. When his young daughter became deathly ill, he desperately fell at Jesuss feet and pleaded for him to come and heal her. Jesus agreed, but on the way news reached them that Jairuss daughter had died. The fellow leaders looked at Jairus and said, Why bother the teacher anymore? because she was already dead (Mark 5:35). But Jairus refused to believe death had the final word, and he put his hope in Jesus. When they arrived at the house, Jesus commanded the little girl to get up, and she did!

Why bother? is a question filled with doubt, finality, and despair. Our world is hard and that makes people question the goodness of God. Why bother? How could God let bad things happen to good people? Where is God when things are this bad?

Our kids will face those questions their entire lives. But Jesus does, indeed, have the final word. He told Jairus, Dont be afraid; just believe (Mark 5:36), and he repeatedly tells us the same. We can show our kids how to put their whole faith in Jesus and how to trust him even when others say its too late, or too silly, or too difficult. Gods ability to perform miracles in our life has not changed, because he is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). We should find great hope in that!

This week, lets pray that our kids believe that God can do the impossible and have a faith that they hold onto even when the world says to them, Why bother?

Jesus, I pray that __________ puts their hope in you. Give them a faith that believes in your possibilities. When things are hard, and the rest of the world says to give up or that faith is pointless, may they remember your promises and call on you for help. Help them to recall the miracles you have performed before and give them hope to see those miracles again. Amen.

From blindness to healing with Kylie White

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Many families today are navigating life with neurodivergent children, from ADHD to dyslexia to autism, and it can feel overwhelming to know how to best support them.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Kelly Cagle, host of Parenting IQ, who has a passion for helping moms create refreshing rhythms at home. She shares personal stories, research-backed insight, and practical ways parents can better support kids with ADHD.

One of my favorite parts of this conversation was her encouragement for parents to truly understand their kids, to see the unique and beautiful way their brains process the world. It can be tempting to try to force neurodivergent kids into more typical patterns of behavior, but when we learn how their brains work, we can lead with empathy and help set them up to thrive.

I learned so much from this conversation, and I think it will really encourage parents walking this road.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Hosts

01:12 Personal and Professional Background of Dr. Kelly Cagle

03:05 Understanding ADHD: Definitions and Personal Experiences

05:30 Challenges in Traditional Education for ADHD Children

10:59 The Impact of Society and Genetics on ADHD

15:52 Navigating Parenting with ADHD: Systems and Support

19:06 Understanding Neurodiversity in Parenting

21:42 Homeschooling vs. Traditional Education

25:04 Navigating Diagnoses and Labels

30:43 Practical Strategies for Parents

32:00 The Journey of Writing a Book

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Christian Parenting

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Courtney DeFeo

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Resources from todays show:

Connect with Kelly

Parenting IQ Podcast

7 Personal Systems to Lower Stress

ADHD is awesome by Penn Holderness

Sign up for Morning Minute

Open a LearningRX center

The Hunt for the Kraken

Lives of Faith and Grace series

Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen. (Ephesians 3:2031)

One of the most talked about miracles of Jesus is his feeding five thousand people from five loaves of bread and two fish. Imagine being there, listening to Jesus powerfully preach with thousands of other people. It was lunchtime and everyone was hungry and cranky (hangry, if you will); the people needed to eat! But all there was to eat was a small basket of five loaves of bread and two fish from a little boy. That boy willingly offered up his small lunch to Jesus. He didnt have enough, but what he had he gave to Jesus, trusting that he would use it for good.

We dont know what resources our kids will have when they grow up. No matter what they have, God calls them to be generous with it. God is in the business of multiplying.

Whatever we have to offer God, he will multiply it. Whether thats our financial resources, serving others, encouraging others, or spreading the gospel, he will take what we have capacity to give, and he will make it even more. This work requires trust and sacrifice from us; we have to give it away for God to use it. But it is not dependent on our efforts. Its not our efforts or resources that will change lives and bring people to Jesus; it is God working through our efforts and resources.

Lets pray that our kids are generous with their resources and giftings so that God can work through them to expand his kingdom.

Jesus, thank you for taking care of us. I pray that __________ will view their resources and gifts as a blessing from you and hold them loosely, knowing that if they offer them up to you, you will multiply them and bring more people to you. May they always remember that there are no small parts in Gods kingdom. Amen.

If you love this episode and dont have your copy of A Great Cloud of Witnesses yet, its not too late to get yours! Go ChristianParenting.org to get your copy and follow along. And dont forget to tune in to Pardon the Mess every Monday for more prayer episodes. 

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Did you know we release a My Virtual Mentor episode once a month? Each one is designed to help you grow and then process what youre learning with a mentor or trusted friend whos a season ahead of you.

This months conversation is one every family needs, but many couples struggle to live out. Im joined by Ashley Willis, speaker, author, and co-host of The Naked Marriage Podcast, to talk about prioritizing your marriage while raising kids.

We all say our marriage comes first, but actually living that way takes intentionality. Ashley shares honest encouragement and practical wisdom for couples who feel stretched thinand especially for those who may be losing hope. Dont miss her practical advice at the end.

If youre just getting started - dont miss the previous episodes:

• My Virtual Mentor: Why Mentorship Matters
• My Virtual Mentor: Intimacy with God
• My Virtual Mentor: Personalities and Temperaments
• My Virtual Mentor: Stewardship & Generosity 
• My Virtual Mentor: Time Management & Creating Margin
• My Virtual Mentor: Identity in Christ (Part 1 and Part 2)

00:00 Introduction 

05:56 Practical Tips for Prioritizing Marriage

08:52 The Role of Counseling in Marriage

11:57 Building a Supportive Community

15:41 Navigating Hard Seasons in Marriage

20:52 The Role of Intimacy in Marriage

24:45 Encouragement for Struggling Moms

27:27 Witnessing God's Miracles in Marriage

31:21 Closing Thoughts and Prayer

MY VIRTUAL MENTOR GUIDE (MARRIAGE)

Scripture to memorize:

Colossians 3:13-14

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Scriptures for prayer and study:

Romans 12:3, I Peter 3:8-9, Philippians 2:1-5, Proverbs 5:15-19

Books for further study:

• Do Marriage Better with  Ashley Willis
• Us In Mind Ted Lowe
• Marriage Paul David Tripp
• You and Me Forever Francis and Lisa Chan

Discussion questions:

What is the most rewarding part of being married?

What is the most challenging part of being married?

What are your prayers for your marriage?

What is God nudging you to focus on - how you can improve your role in marriage?

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• Pardon The Mess 
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Resources from todays show:

• Connect with Ashley
• XO Marriage
• Naked Marriage Podcast 
• Married Into the Family - book by Ashley Willis
• Do Marriage Better - Ashley and Daves latest book
• Resources from Titus 2 Mentoring
• Sign up for Morning Minute
• Christian Parenting
• Open a LearningRX center
• The Hunt for the Kraken

Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org