Mother-Daughter Relationships with Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney
Aug 29 • 34:32
Mother-Daughter Relationships with Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney
Episode:

Mother-Daughter Relationships with Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney

August 29, 2024 • 34:32 • Courtney DeFeo

The mother-daughter relationship can be the most special bond out there. However, it can also be tough in many seasons. The mother-daughter duo of Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney are on the podcast today to give us very practical tips on ways to build, maintain and strengthen our relationships with our daughters.

As we think about the mother-daughter relationship, we can often jump to the things we need to add to our plate. We feel guilty that we arent doing enough. Sandra shares that we may need to actually eliminate things. We may need to limit what we do - to make room for this important relationship. 

As a mom of daughters, I absolutely loved this chat and it gave me so many great ideas I can still implement in my own home. However, if you have sons, you will still gain some great thoughts on connecting with all of your children.

My favorite part of the episode is when Allie shares about her college experience and how she made her faith her own. Her insight was really helpful to me about our kids finding their identity and how they can change from I have to love Jesus to I want to love Jesus. So many powerful moments from two of my favorite people.

In this episode:

  • Creating a safe and loving environment for daughters
  • How to pass on an authentic faith
  • How to show interest in your childs life

Enjoy!

Courtney

00:00

Introduction and Mother-Daughter Similarities

03:50

Creating a Safe and Loving Environment for Daughters

07:16

Passing on Faith: Modeling and Encouraging a Personal Relationship with God

16:14

Modeling Authentic Faith

18:36

Personal Faith Journey

22:11

Staying Stable in Parenting

24:12

Being Available and Humble

28:30

Showing Interest in Your Child's Life

30:23

Adjusting Parenting Approaches

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Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

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Resources from todays show:

SandraStanley.com

Allie Stanley Instagram

Meet Me In The Middle - their new book

I Said This, You Heard That - temperament book

Parenting book by Andy and Sandra Stanley

Allie & Courtney - previous podcast episode

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Pardon the Mess

With Courtney DeFeo
As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Each day brings wins, losses and valuable lessons. Pardon the Mess is a place where we discuss parenting and faith in a biblical, approachable and relatable way. We may cry and laugh while we learn and grow together in our beautiful mess. Follow Pardon the Mess on Instagram and Facebook!
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Sep 9 • 10:29
BONUS: God the Father

Scripture tells us that God is like a potter and we are like the clay that he works with (Isaiah 64:8). He forms us with his hands, but he doesnt forget about us once he is done! We are not a clay pot that sits on a shelf and is only touched when we remember to dust it every now and then. No, God continues to shape us.In fact, God loves us so much that he calls us his own! When we choose to follow Jesus, we are adopted into Gods family where there is both freedom and grace. Our father is so faithful to us that even when we dont choose him or we run away from him, he waits for us and rejoices when we return. There is nothing we, or our kids, could ever do that would make our heavenly father love us less (or more!).So this week, lets pray that our kids know God as the good father that he is. 

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Sep 5 • 39:37
Are my kids on track? with Sissy Goff and David Thomas

I didnt know swap was a thing in podcasting. Who knew? It was an immediate YES when we got the opportunity to swap episodes with my dear friends Sissy Goff and David Thomas. You will get to hear one of their actual episodes from the Raising Boys and Girls podcast - to get a glimpse of how they support parents across the world. 

These two have helped raise my kids in some ways. I have read every book they have written and listened to every episode of their podcast. Sissy and David, with Raising Boys and Girls, offer clinical experience and grace-filled encouragement for every stage of our parenting. You will see a glimpse of their practical parenting support and tender encouragement in this episode. 

When you were growing up, did your parents pass a feelings chart around the dinner table? Or did you have healthy conversations around emotions? Were guessing, for most of us, thats a nobut wed love to hear in the comments!

In case you didnt or are just wondering what a healthy emotional vocabulary looks like for your family, this episode is the one for you! In it, Sissy and David discuss what it looks like to fold an emotional vocabulary into the life of your family, plus stumbling blocks and building blocks that are often more specific to girls and boys (and maybe moms and dads, too). We hope it helps and that youre HAPPY and ENCOURAGED once you have a chance to listen!

Grab a copy of Are My Kids on Track? to follow along with us through the season over on our podcast, Raising Boys and Girls.

And be sure to listen for Pardon The Mess as we appear on their podcast in the next couple weeks!

Enjoy!

Courtney 

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Courtney DeFeo

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Celebrating around the Table

Politics Simplified

Resources from todays show:

Sign up for Raising Boys & Girls monthly newsletter to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share!

Tune into more of this series on the Raising Boys & Girls podcast

Go behind the scenes and watch Sissy & Davids podcast on YouTube!

Download a copy of the Raising Boys and Girls Feelings Chart.

Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at raisingboysandgirls.com.

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Aug 29 • 34:32
Mother-Daughter Relationships with Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney

The mother-daughter relationship can be the most special bond out there. However, it can also be tough in many seasons. The mother-daughter duo of Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney are on the podcast today to give us very practical tips on ways to build, maintain and strengthen our relationships with our daughters.

As we think about the mother-daughter relationship, we can often jump to the things we need to add to our plate. We feel guilty that we arent doing enough. Sandra shares that we may need to actually eliminate things. We may need to limit what we do - to make room for this important relationship. 

As a mom of daughters, I absolutely loved this chat and it gave me so many great ideas I can still implement in my own home. However, if you have sons, you will still gain some great thoughts on connecting with all of your children.

My favorite part of the episode is when Allie shares about her college experience and how she made her faith her own. Her insight was really helpful to me about our kids finding their identity and how they can change from I have to love Jesus to I want to love Jesus. So many powerful moments from two of my favorite people.

In this episode:

  • Creating a safe and loving environment for daughters
  • How to pass on an authentic faith
  • How to show interest in your childs life

Enjoy!

Courtney

00:00

Introduction and Mother-Daughter Similarities

03:50

Creating a Safe and Loving Environment for Daughters

07:16

Passing on Faith: Modeling and Encouraging a Personal Relationship with God

16:14

Modeling Authentic Faith

18:36

Personal Faith Journey

22:11

Staying Stable in Parenting

24:12

Being Available and Humble

28:30

Showing Interest in Your Child's Life

30:23

Adjusting Parenting Approaches

Connect with Pardon The Mess:

Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith

Resources from todays show:

SandraStanley.com

Allie Stanley Instagram

Meet Me In The Middle - their new book

I Said This, You Heard That - temperament book

Parenting book by Andy and Sandra Stanley

Allie & Courtney - previous podcast episode

Our Sponsors:
* Check out FamilyAlbum: family-album.com
* Check out Lil Critters: www.lilcritters.com
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Aug 22 • 57:57
Finding direction when you feel lost with Cari Trotter and Terri Flannagan

Have you ever had a season where you question everything about yourself? Have you found yourself in an insecure spot and wonder if youre too late or too old? Do you wonder if you have anything to offer the world?

I have been in this place more times than I can count. Being a mom and balancing career and purpose and raising kids can be very complicated and very discouraging. Its so very hard to discern what to do when God feels quiet and sometimes the path feels uncertain or vulnerable.

My guests today, Cari Trotter and Terri Flannagan, share their own stories about why its so hard to discern around career and calling. I believe their honest feelings and practical advice will encourage you in your own journey.

Please dont miss this entire episode. Its a little long, so you may need to listen in two parts. My favorite part is at the end when we start tackling the practical stuff. What do we do with a complicated situation? How can we take a step? How can we discern what to do in the next season?

I pray this episode meets you in such a special way. That you feel like we opened your heart and soul and spoke to a place that needs encouragement. I am insanely thankful for authentic and honest friends that love me and love Jesus. Its a true gift.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Handling a midlife crisis, work and reinventing ourselves
  • Balancing careers and raising kids
  • How to discern what God has for us 
  • How to fight the very loud lies that want us silent and frozen

00:00

Introduction and Entertaining Start

04:02

Talking About Fashion and Passion Projects

05:50

Midlife Crisis, Work, and Reinventing Ourselves

08:51

Introductions and Current Life Situations

11:54

Why Balancing Work and Personal Life is Hard

16:38

Discerning What's Next and Dealing with Lies

22:13

Navigating Transitions and Evaluating Priorities

25:20

Dealing with Comparison and Seeking Authenticity

27:13

Being True to Yourself and Finding Support

31:48

Conclusion and Final Thoughts

34:46

Staying Rooted and Grounded

37:13

Embracing Silence and Growth

44:34

The Journey of Faith

50:56

Redefining Success

57:45

Embracing Struggles and Failure

Connect with Pardon The Mess:

Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith

Resources from todays show:

CariTrotter.com

Party On Purpose - Caris business with girls

Caris Instagram

TerriFlannagan.com

The Unreal Reel - Terris Instagram

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Aug 15 • 28:01
How to honor God with your family with Priscilla Shirer

You can imagine, I have been quite excited to share this episode with you all. Priscilla Shirer is one of the gifted preachers that has inspired me and challenged me so much over the years.

I was so thrilled to get a chance to interview her about her latest movie and book. The Forge, produced by The Kendrick Brothers, is set to release next week. I Surrender All, her latest book, just came out last week. 

Both of those new projects are all about surrender. How can we surrender our lives and go from being a believer to a disciple? I loved how she teaches us about that difference and how the idea of surrendering all can truly impact our faith (and our families).

Although Priscilla is a world-renowned teacher, preacher, actor and writer - shes also a mom, just like us, giving it her very best. I love hearing about the ways her amazing parents instilled the practices of faith. She shares about their consistency and what she remembered about growing up in a house that honored God.

Dont forget to grab your Prayer Journal! We will be starting to pray through that together on Pardon The Mess on September 9. Grab a friend or your small group and lets commit to pray for our kids this entire school year.

In this episode, we chat about:

  • The difference between being a believer and a disciple 
  • How to walk through grief and hold onto your faith
  • How to instill faith in our kids when they arent into it
  • How to stay consistent with honoring God with your kids

Connect with Pardon The Mess:

Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith

Resources from todays show:

Priscilla Shirer - Priscillas ministry, Going Beyond

The Forge - Her latest movie

I Surrender All - Her latest book

Evans Family on Death & Loss

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About the Host

Courtney DeFeo

Courtney DeFeo is the NEW host of Pardon the Mess! She is the author of In This House, We Will Giggle and Treasured and creator of ABC Scripture Cards and the kindness movement, Light ‘Em Up Acts. She loves to encourage parents and women through speaking, writing, and podcasting. She also serves on the board of For Girls Like You and Lighthouse Family Retreat. Her deepest desire is to encourage others and give generously in a way that draws people to God.

Her most honorable mention is her husband Ron and their two wildly fun girls (Ella, 16 and Larson, 14). Courtney is passionate about Jesus, coffee, Auburn football, Coca-Cola classic, her dog Mazie, spending time with friends and family, and finding deals at TJ Maxx. Although they have lived in Atlanta and Orlando, they currently reside in the DFW area. Courtney’s family loves to serve at Compass Church, travel together, and consume large amounts of table-side guacamole. Connect with Courtney on Instagram or visit CourtneyDeFeo.com.

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