Q&A with Ella DeFeo and Landry Smith
Dec 18 • 44:28
Q&A with Ella DeFeo and Landry Smith
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Q&A with Ella DeFeo and Landry Smith

December 18, 2025 • 44:28 • Steph Thurling

What a thrill to interview my oldest daughter and one of her very best friends. Ella and Landry have been friends since 3rd grade and its so special to hear from two young women that are keeping their faith a priority in college. I ask them about their favorites from tennis shoes to rom-coms and then we get into some more serious topics.

My favorite moment is when I ask each of them, What is God teaching you right now? I was blown away by their answers and also felt so thankful that they are both engaged in their college church communities. Ask your kiddos that question this Christmas break and let them share about their faith. I am always astounded when I learn how much depth and wisdom is in these teens. They are wiser than you know.

You also dont want to miss my opening story about an elf on the shelf adventure gone wrong. I am still feeling a little rattled from it. 

Enjoy!

Courtney 

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introductions

07:05 High School Experiences and Advice

10:02 Navigating Junior Year Challenges

14:54 Senior Year Reflections and Relationships

18:26 Maintaining Faith in High School

23:35 Parental Guidance and Support

25:37 Navigating High School Dynamics

26:56 Understanding Teen Communication

28:04 The High School Experience: Challenges and Growth

30:51 Transitioning to College Life

33:35 Building Friendships in College

37:48 Spiritual Growth and Lessons Learned

43:18 Legacy of Love: Lessons from Grandmothers

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With Steph Thurling
As believing parents, we know how important it is to raise our kids with love and intentionality. We want to give our kids a full picture of God's love for them every day! But some days, it's really hard! We are stretched thin, tired, and often feel unequipped. The Christian Parenting Podcast gives parents the space and resources to set aside perfection and grow into the perfectly imperfect parents God made them to be. Join host Steph Thurling and her guests as they discuss practical tips and spiritual guidance for your parenting journey.
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As part of our Best of The Christian Parenting Podcast series, were revisiting some of our most helpful and encouraging conversations for families.

One of our most important callings as parents is discipling our kids in the Christian faith. To do that well, we need to understand what we believe, why we believe it, and be familiar with Gods Word.

In this episode, Jen Wilkin and J.T. English join me to talk about the relationship between Bible study and theology and why both matter as we raise the next generation of believers. Together we discuss how understanding theology strengthens our faith, why Bible literacy matters for parents and kids alike, and how these two practices work together to shape a lifelong walk with God.

Jen and J.T., who co-authored You Are a Theologian, also share practical encouragement for discipling kids in different seasons of parenting and helping them grow in their understanding of God.

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Mar 3 • 33:10
Bringing Joy Back to Discipleship at Home with Amanda Jass

Hey friends,

What if discipling your kids didnt feel heavy but actually felt joyful again?

I dont know about you, but sometimes the pressure to do it right as a Christian parent can slowly steal the fun and freedom out of faith. What starts as a beautiful calling can start to feel like another thing on the list. And thats exactly why this conversation felt so refreshing.

Today Im joined by my friend Amanda Jass, and she brings such a grace-filled, life-giving perspective to what it looks like to disciple our kids in a way that feels natural, joyful, and deeply rooted in Jesus.

Here are four takeaways that I think will really stick with you:

  • You can partner with the church without outsourcing discipleship, your home still matters most
  • Faith doesnt have to feel overwhelming when we make it simple, approachable, and part of everyday life
  • Play, story, and imagination are essential, not extra, when it comes to kids understanding and loving Jesus
  • You are not behind, small, consistent moments matter more than getting it perfect

This conversation is such a deep exhale. If youve ever felt like youre not doing enough or you dont even know where to start, I think this will remind you that God isnt asking for perfectionjust presence.

Amanda Joss is a childrens author, illustrator, and longtime kids ministry leader who is passionate about helping families make faith feel joyful and accessible. She is the creator of Adventures in the Friendly Forest, a 30-day storybook devotional that uses imaginative storytelling and biblical truth to help kids grow in their faith in a fun and meaningful way.

Im cheering you on as you create a home where faith feels light, joyful, and lived out together.

With Love,

Steph

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Feb 24 • 32:07
Rethinking your time with purpose and peace with Elaine Franklin

Have you ever felt busy all day long but still wondered if any of it really mattered?

This weeks episode is a little different and so special. Im sharing a conversation from another Christian Parenting podcast, Pardon the Mess, hosted by the wonderful Courtney DeFeo. I first heard her interview with Elaine Franklin years ago, and honestly, it stuck with me in such a meaningful way. So when I saw them sit down together again, I knew I had to share it with you.

This conversation is all about time, but not in the way you might expect. Its not about doing more or getting more organized. Its about living with intention, clarity, and peace in the middle of full lives.

Here are four takeaways that really stood out:

  • Why understanding your circle of care vs. circle of responsibility can completely shift how you spend your time
  • The importance of defining your purpose and mission before building your schedule
  • How margin isnt lazy, its protective for your faith, your family, and your well-being
  • Why creating a to stop list might be the most freeing productivity tool youve never tried

This episode is packed with practical wisdom, but more than that, its an invitation to step out of the hustle and into a more thoughtful, life-giving rhythm. If youve been feeling stretched thin or a little out of alignment, I think this one will really meet you right where you are.

Elaine Franklin is a speaker, coach, and author who helps individuals and families align their time and priorities with their God-given purpose. Through her teaching, she offers practical and biblical tools for creating margin, setting healthy boundaries, and living with intention in every season of life.

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Feb 17 • 29:50
Navigating faith, doubt, and parenting with grace with Kristin LaValley

Hey friends,

Have you ever felt like youre trying to pass on faith to your kids while quietly wrestling with your own? If so, this episode is for you.

This week Im joined by Kristin LaValley, writer, retreat host, and mom of five, who brings so much vulnerability and hope to the table. Kristins story is one many of us can relate to: growing up in the church, facing seasons of doubt and deconstruction, and learning how to build a gentler, deeper faith in the aftermath. Her wisdom is rooted in real experience, and she reminds us that asking questions doesnt disqualify us, it invites us to know God more fully.

Here are just a few of the things we unpack in todays conversation:

  • Why fear-based faith doesnt last, and how to replace it with something more rooted in love
  • The difference between shame and conviction, especially when helping our kids process emotions
  • How to give our children spiritual agency without disengaging from their discipleship
  • What it means to be a non-anxious presence in the midst of theological tension

This one is tender, thoughtful, and full of grace. I hope it reminds you that God can hold both your faith and your questions.

Kristin LaValley is a writer, retreat leader, and mother of five living in New England. She helps women process faith, trauma, and spiritual transformation with honesty and hope. Her latest book, Growing Up Saved, is a heartfelt reflection on evangelical culture, mental health, and rebuilding faith after deconstruction.

(01:28) Transitioning from Homeschooling to Public School

(02:41) The Power of Writing in Healing

(05:19) Navigating Church Hurt and Parenting

(10:36) Giving Kids Agency in Their Faith

(20:38) Understanding Shame and Its Impact on Faith

(28:38) Kristen's Book and Closing Thoughts

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Feb 10 • 12:52
What 3 years of interviews have taught me about parenting with faith

Hi friends,

This weeks episode is a little different and really special. It's just me, Steph, reflecting on the past three years of hosting the Christian Parenting Podcast. As I look back on the many conversations Ive had with incredible guests, a few themes have come up over and over again. And I wanted to take a moment to name them, reflect on them, and remind you (and myself!) that faithful parenting is not about doing everything perfectly, it's about showing up with humility, love, and trust in God.

In this solo episode, I share some of the truths that have encouraged me the most over the years:

  • Relationship comes before instruction. Our kids dont need a lecture, they need connection.
  • Consistency matters more than intensity. One big moment doesnt outweigh everyday faithfulness.
  • Modeling an authentic faith makes a lasting impact. Your honesty and humility preach louder than perfection.
  • Youre not responsible for the outcome. Youre invited to be faithful, present, and full of grace, and let God do the rest.

These reminders have shaped how I approach my own parenting and I hope they encourage you as you walk alongside your kids in faith, love, and truth.

With Love,

Steph

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About the Host

Steph Thurling

Steph Thurling is Executive Director of Christian Parenting and host of The Christian Parenting Podcast.

Steph has her master’s in youth, family, and culture from Fuller Theological Seminary and has a background in youth and children’s ministry. She is co-author of Raising Prayerful Kids, a book that shares easy, life-giving, and fun ways to teach kids to pray. She loves helping families grow closer to each other and to God through meaningful experiences and conversations. Steph is a frequent speaker at churches and mom groups and is known for her relatable stories, practical ideas, and gentle encouragement.

Steph lives in Minnesota with her husband and three amazing and hilarious kids. When she is not hanging out with her family, you can probably find her on a walk with a friend, organizing things that won’t stay organized, or somewhere cozy reading a book.

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