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As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Each day brings wins, losses and valuable lessons. Pardon the Mess is a place where we discuss parenting and faith in a biblical, approachable and relatable way. We may cry and laugh while we learn and grow together in our beautiful mess.
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Marriage reconciliation and restoration with Cheryl Scruggs →
Marriage can be both deeply challenging and incredibly beautiful, and many couples experience seasons of disconnection along the way.
In this episode, Cheryl Scruggs shares her powerful story of reconciliation after walking through divorce and finding her way back to her husband years later. Together, the conversation explores the realities of marriage, the slow drift that can happen over time, and the hope that restoration is possible, even after deep hurt.
We talk about the importance of communication, the danger of letting resentment grow in silence, and the role of community in helping marriages stay healthy. There is also practical encouragement for women who want to be more intentional in their relationships and create space for honesty and healing.
This episode is a reminder that while marriage takes work, it is also a place where God can bring growth, redemption, and renewed connection.
Here are the verses she shared!
Matthew 19:26
With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.
Deuteronomy 8:2 (read full chapter too)
Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands.
Ephesians 3:20
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.
Chapters:
00:00 Navigating Life's Challenges
03:02 The Journey of Marriage Ministry
06:02 Crisis in Marriage: Recognizing the Signs
09:09 Building a Stronger Connection
11:59 The Importance of Vulnerability in Relationships
19:20 Navigating the Transition to Empty Nesting
22:02 The Importance of Nurturing Intimacy
24:34 Overcoming Disconnection in Marriage
27:32 The Role of Counseling in Strengthening Relationships
29:59 Practical Steps to Show Love and Respect
31:54 Finding Hope and Redemption in Marriage
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Resources from todays show:
Connect with Cheryl and Jeff
Thriving Beyond Belief - Cheryls podcast
Thriving Beyond Belief - Cheryls newest book
I Do Again - Jeff and Cheryls book
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Week 29: Let go of perfection - Martha →
Martha, Martha, the Lord answered, you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are neededor indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her. (Luke 10:4142)
Martha kind of gets a bad rap. In her story, Jesus and the disciples were staying at her home. Martha spent her time making food and busying herself to make her home hospitable, while her sister Mary sat at the feet of Jesus and listened to him. We all want to be Mary, choosing time with the Lord over the busyness of life (more on that in two weeks), but its important to remember that as disciples of Jesus we are called to sit and serve.
In Marthas case, it was all about priorities. Creating a hospitable home and serving others is important. In fact, Martha served Jesus and his disciples again at a dinner given in Jesuss honor before Passover.
But when it comes to serving others are we focused on Pinterest perfection or on making people feel comfortable and pointing to Jesus with our actions? Its more about our attitude than our actions. Taking care of Jesus and his disciples was a good thingbut it seems as though Martha was seeking perfection. The truth is, seeking perfection is setting ourselves up for failure because it means we are depending more on ourselves than on Jesus. We cant be perfect, only God is perfect.
Todays world looks like perfection and our kids are growing up right in the middle of it. But we can encourage them to keep their eyes on Jesus and serve him and others because its whats in their hearts, not what makes them look best.
This week, lets pray that our kids can let go of any pressure for perfection and learn to rest in Jesus and his perfection. Lets pray that when they are overwhelmed by the things of life they redirect their hearts toward the most important thing.
Jesus, when __________ feels overwhelmed by the busyness of the world, help them to focus their heart back to you. Give them the peace to let go of perfection and expectation, and to rely on you instead. May they serve others out of a response to your love, not out of obligation, pride, or image. Amen.
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Navigating Foster Care with Meredith Brock →
Foster care is a journey that holds both deep brokenness and incredible beauty. For many families, it can also feel overwhelming to know how to step in and support children from hard places.
In this episode, Meredith Brock, CEO of Proverbs 31 Ministries and a foster and adoptive mom, shares insights from her familys experience with foster care and how the journey has shaped her faith and motherhood. The conversation explores the realities of caring for vulnerable children, the tension of holding both joy and heartbreak, and the ways God often meets families in their most difficult moments.
Together they talk about what it looks like to support children with hard stories, how foster care can refine and stretch a familys faith, and why the church has such an important role in caring for these kids.
Its also a reminder that supporting the foster care system isnt limited to becoming a foster parent. Whether through respite care, advocacy, or supporting families already in the system, there are meaningful ways we can all step in and help.
00:00 Introduction and Personal Background
05:53 The Call to Foster Care
11:57 The Importance of Community Support
17:58 Respite Care and Community Involvement
24:07 Personal Growth Through Foster Care
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Connect with Meredith
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Week 28: Believe in miracles - Jairus →
But Jesus looked at them and said, With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26 ESV)
Jairus was a synagogue leader and a man of status and faith. When his young daughter became deathly ill, he desperately fell at Jesuss feet and pleaded for him to come and heal her. Jesus agreed, but on the way news reached them that Jairuss daughter had died. The fellow leaders looked at Jairus and said, Why bother the teacher anymore? because she was already dead (Mark 5:35). But Jairus refused to believe death had the final word, and he put his hope in Jesus. When they arrived at the house, Jesus commanded the little girl to get up, and she did!
Why bother? is a question filled with doubt, finality, and despair. Our world is hard and that makes people question the goodness of God. Why bother? How could God let bad things happen to good people? Where is God when things are this bad?
Our kids will face those questions their entire lives. But Jesus does, indeed, have the final word. He told Jairus, Dont be afraid; just believe (Mark 5:36), and he repeatedly tells us the same. We can show our kids how to put their whole faith in Jesus and how to trust him even when others say its too late, or too silly, or too difficult. Gods ability to perform miracles in our life has not changed, because he is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). We should find great hope in that!
This week, lets pray that our kids believe that God can do the impossible and have a faith that they hold onto even when the world says to them, Why bother?
Jesus, I pray that __________ puts their hope in you. Give them a faith that believes in your possibilities. When things are hard, and the rest of the world says to give up or that faith is pointless, may they remember your promises and call on you for help. Help them to recall the miracles you have performed before and give them hope to see those miracles again. Amen.
From blindness to healing with Kylie White
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ADHD 101 - Tips to better support neurodivergent children with Dr. Kelly Cagle →
Many families today are navigating life with neurodivergent children, from ADHD to dyslexia to autism, and it can feel overwhelming to know how to best support them.
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Kelly Cagle, host of Parenting IQ, who has a passion for helping moms create refreshing rhythms at home. She shares personal stories, research-backed insight, and practical ways parents can better support kids with ADHD.
One of my favorite parts of this conversation was her encouragement for parents to truly understand their kids, to see the unique and beautiful way their brains process the world. It can be tempting to try to force neurodivergent kids into more typical patterns of behavior, but when we learn how their brains work, we can lead with empathy and help set them up to thrive.
I learned so much from this conversation, and I think it will really encourage parents walking this road.
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Hosts
01:12 Personal and Professional Background of Dr. Kelly Cagle
03:05 Understanding ADHD: Definitions and Personal Experiences
05:30 Challenges in Traditional Education for ADHD Children
10:59 The Impact of Society and Genetics on ADHD
15:52 Navigating Parenting with ADHD: Systems and Support
19:06 Understanding Neurodiversity in Parenting
21:42 Homeschooling vs. Traditional Education
25:04 Navigating Diagnoses and Labels
30:43 Practical Strategies for Parents
32:00 The Journey of Writing a Book
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Resources from todays show:
Connect with Kelly
7 Personal Systems to Lower Stress
ADHD is awesome by Penn Holderness
Lives of Faith and Grace series
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