Practical and Scriptural Tips for Discipling Your Kids with Rene Christensen

Jesus calls us to make disciples, and the first disciples we should seek to make are the members of our own household. Rene Christensen has over 24 years of obeying Jesus’ command with her seven children. Through the years she has gained a wealth of knowledge and experience of how to simplify and normalize discipleship practices that will grow our children’s love of God, love of others, and heart to obey Jesus.

Rene joins Jay to share scriptural and practical tips on discipling our children. As you listen, you will pick up on fun and easy practices you will want to make a part of your own household rhythm.

 

Jay and Rene discuss:

 

  • The biblical command to disciple our households from Deuteronomy 6

  • Instilling scripture in our children’s hearts through song.

  • Establishing a daily quiet time for each child.

  • Various ways to pray for your family, neighbors, and church.

  • Practical acts of service to grow our children’s love for their hurting neighbors.

  • Practices to point to Jesus’ command to love one another to resolve family disputes.

 

Rene Christensen is an author and speaker (formerly Budget Saving Mom) whose passion is to help Christians disciple others, have a biblical worldview, and become biblically literate. She and her husband Eric are the parents of 7 kids ages 4-24 years old. Her new book Training Them Wisely - Discipling Kids is available on amazon.com.

 

Resources mentioned:

www.trainingthemwisely.com

 

Training Them Wisely with Rene Christensen: https://amzn.to/3lPK5Z8

 

Hide ‘Em In Your Heart Bible Memory Melodies: https://open.spotify.com/album/58kaa7tWGiebuNc1f4KjzR?si=S-ng1XWZSCCEqMoO-NjzhQ

 

Seeds Family Worship: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5kV2pC0biCYFh3y9HxgNkS?si=4wHGS2ZEQk-K_S6VNV7Edg

 

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Communicating With Your Teen Involves More Than Just Talking

It can often feel like our teenagers hear the exact opposite message from what we intend. Teens are likewise frustrated that their parents don’t understand them. Jay shares insights that can help you bridge the gap with your teen and enhance true communication. We don’t want to just exchange words, we want to understand and be understood.

 

Our discussion includes:

The importance of seeking the Lord in prayer for wisdom and understanding.

 

How teens are hypocrisy radars and why this will shut down their ability to hear what you are saying.

 

Limiting inputs in their life that are increasing insecurities.

 

Learning to be consistent in affirming elements our teens can control.

 

The power of paper notes and text emojis.

 

An encouragement to give the Lord time to do his work in each of our lives.

 

Resources mentioned:

Communicating With A Teenager

 

If you like this check out the first episode of my Communication And Conflict Series: Know Your Enemy

 

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Increase Your Child's Security By Investing in Your Marriage

One of the greatest ways to increase the security and stability of our children is to invest in our marriage. If mom and dad love and enjoy one another, children feel safe. Today Jay shares a number or regular habits each couple can make to increase the quality and security of their marriage. By committing to these regular and public habits, you not only enhance your marriage, you will also create more stable, grounded children.

 

Jay’s suggestions include:

 

Tell your spouse you love them.  Tell them often.  In front of the kids.

 

Flirt with your spouse.  In front of the kids.

 

Hug and kiss and cuddle with your spouse.

 

Put a date night on the calendar for each week. Fight for it, and then walk in grace when it only happens once or twice a month.

 

Write notes to each other.  Put them in places your spouse will find at surprising points in the day.

 

Have sex.  With each other.  A lot.

Be open with what you need from one another.

 

Pray with each other. Read the Bible together.

 

Find a hobby together, apart from the kids.

 

Talk up your spouse to your kids.  Talk about how awesome they are, how mommy and daddy are a team, how much you love them, and how you’ve got their back.

 

In an ideal world, get away, overnight, a few times  a year.

 

Give yourself grace.

 

Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt.

 

Lighten up!

 

Resources mentioned:

Want to be a Better Parent? Be a Better Spouse

 

Episode 120 How Your Marriage Affects Your Parenting

 

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Are Youth Sports and Extracurricular Activities Enslaving Your Family?

Youth sports have become a multibillion dollar business in the United States. In search of the tantalizing promise of a college scholarship, many parents sacrifice years and thousands of dollars to keep their child competitive on sports teams. Even the casual sporting family must make difficult decisions on how much they are willing to commit to sports or other extracurricular activities. In this episode Jay walks parents through a list of questions to help them determine the level of involvement their family is willing to invest in ever consuming culture.

Questions to ask when considering how involved your family should get in youth sports or other extracurricular activities:

 

  • Why are we wanting to do this?

    • Is this something the child wants or something the parent wants?

    • If it’s something the child wants, does that mean its the best thing?

 

  • What are the short term costs of getting involved in this activity?

    • How much money does it cost to sign up?

    • How much does it costs in equipment or other gear (including shoes)

    • What are the expenses involved per event?

      • Tickets to watch

      • Travel costs - food, hotel, gas

      • Am I going to require private training or tutoring?

    • How many days and nights a week?

    • What are the things we currently do during those night that we will no longer be able to do?

      • Rest

      • Homework

      • Family time

      • Date your spouse

      • Church

 

  • What are the long term costs of getting involved with this sport?

    • Multiply the short term expenses by the number of seasons per year and years of potential play

    • What kinds of sacrifices are you and your family going to have to make to stay committed at this level?

    • Am I setting my child up for a high likelihood of injury due to repetitive motion in the same sport being played all year?

    • What is the environment of the team and the people involved?

    • How much family or spouse time are you missing?

 

  • What am I communicating to myself, my family, my neighbors, my peers, my children’s peers, my church, and God through my interaction in this activity?

    • Are we a sports family?

    • Are we slaves to our children’s wants?

    • What is sacred in our lives?

    • Who do we serve?

 

  • Am I playing a form of lottery with my child’s educational future?

    • Is my excuse for investing in this activity so heavily that I think they can get a college scholarship?

    • What if I calculated all of my anticipated costs for investing in this sport and put it into a 529 College Savings Plan?

 

  • Jesus says “no one can serve two masters. you can either hate one and love the other or else be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.”

    • If someone were to observe our family’s life. Not based on what we SAY but based on what we DO and how we LIVE, who would they conclude that we serve?

 

  • When my child rearing years are done, and the time I had with my children in the home is just a story, what story do I want to tell?

 

Resources mentioned:

http://thesportdigest.com/2022/06/the-goal-of-youth-sports-is-changing/

 

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Substance Abuse Warning Signs with Richard Capriola

Can you recognize the warning signs of substance abuse in your child?  How do you broach the conversation if you suspect your child has gotten involved with alcohol, vaping, marijuana, or other substances? What can you do to help convince your child that pot is a big deal on a developing brain?  My guest Richard Capriola joins me once again to discuss these topics as well as give updated statistics on substance abuse trends during and after the Covid-19 pandemic.

Richard Capriola has been a mental health and substance abuse counselor for over two decades. He recently retired from Menninger Clinic in Houston Texas where for over a decade he treated both teens and adults diagnosed with substance use disorders. He is the author of The Addicted Child: A Parent's Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse which can be found at http://www.helptheaddictedchild.com

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Resources mentioned:

 http://www.helptheaddictedchild.com

 

https://www.facebook.com/richard.capriola\

 

https://www.twitter.com/CapriolaRichard

 

Episode 248 Understanding and Responding to Teen Substance Abuse with Richard Capriola

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Antidotes to Anxiety with Terra Mattson

What if you could lower some of the sources of anxiety in your children’s lives and build a greater sense of stability and connection?  My guest Terra Mattson rejoins me today for a conversation on the digital drivers of anxiety in our children, especially our young ladies. In this episode, you will learn about

  • The science behind the wiring of male and female brains and how it contributes to higher female anxiety.
  • The various ways our cell phones promise connection but instead bring isolation. 
  • What are the right questions to ask yourself before deciding to give your children a cellphone?
  • How do you walk back cell phone privileges when you see they are causing harm?
  • The role of joy in healthy brain development and the simple practices parents can initiate to grow the joy and connection in their home. 

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Alongside her husband Jeff Mattson, Terra is co-founder and CEO of Living Wholehearted, LLC, a professional counseling and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, and Courageous Girls, an online resource helping moms gather in intentional communities so they can walk with their daughters at every stage of her growing years in a world of confusing messages. As a licensed marriage and family therapist and executive coach, she has spent two decades counseling, coaching, and training leaders around trauma-informed theology and wholehearted leadership. She is co-host of the weekly Living Wholehearted Podcast and the Dear Mattsons YouTube series, bridging the gap between biblical, clinical and relational wisdom to help leaders (who are also parents) build healthy relationships in their home, work, and community. You can learn more at terramattson.com or follow @terramattson 

 

Resources mentioned:

TerraMattson.com 

livingwholehearted.com 

MyCourageousGirls.com

 cpguides.org

Episode 323 Closing the Integrity Gap in the Hope with Jeff and Terra Mattson

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A Pep Talk When You Feel Like a Bad Parent

We all have those days when we feel like we are a terrible parent. Sometimes it’s because we blow a moment or decision. Other times it's because we compare ourselves to the best parts of other people’s lives. And sometimes it’s because we are fooled into thinking the false presentation of our friends on social media is true.

Whatever your reason for being down about your parenting, listen to Jay’s pep talk as he encourages you to:

  • Give yourself the benefit of the doubt

  • Give your kids the benefit of the doubt

  • Get over yourself

  • Get better

Finally, be encouraged by Jay’s reminder from scripture that God uses suffering and brokenness to produce character, and that ALL things work together for the glory of God and the good of His children!

Resources:

I Wish I Was A Better Parent

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We never want trial or tragedy or broken hearts to come into our kids’ lives.  But in reality, the people we admire and want to be most like have walked through deep valleys.

 

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Getting the Most Out of Your Youth Pastor with Josh Leucht

No relationship has more impact on the spiritual direction of a child or teen than mom and dad. But every parent needs a community to raise a disciple. Today Jay is joined once again by Pastor Josh Luecht. Between the two of them they have over 40 years of student ministry experience. Jay and Josh share the best ways parents can engage with their church youth pastors and youth volunteers to minister to their children. In this episode, Jay and Josh discus:

  • The importance of knowing and communicating directly with youth workers

  • How to give the inside scoop to youth leaders to help them have better conversations with your children

  • Ways you can be involved in youth ministry even if you don’t want to be a small group leader

  • What to do if you are frustrated with a certain aspect of your youth pastor or youth leader

  • The importance of showing appreciation so your youth leaders stay for many years

  • Discerning the times when you might need to directly speak to a youth pastor about a problem and the times when you need to involved senior leadership

  • Ways you can use your knowledge and skills to improve your youth pastor’s knowledge and skill

  • The importance of not dumping off all spiritual direction for your children to the youth pastor or church

Bio: Pastor Josh Luecht is a teaching pastor at Calvary Chapel Palm City, FL. He holds a M.A. in Biblical Leadership from Calvary Chapel University and loves leading students into a deeper understanding of the Gospel…Josh is also a sports fan, musician and reading enthusiast. In his spare time he enjoys watching hockey and hanging out with his wife. He has been married to Mary since 2012.

Resources Referenced:

Calvary Chapel Palm City Verse by Verse Podcast

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The Greatest Influences on Generation Z with Dr. Tim McKnight

Dr. Tim McKnight, a missions and evangelism expert, reveals the potential for Gen Z to make a kingdom impact if parents can shepherd them well.

You will learn:

1. How is Generation Z different from previous generations, and what unique potential do they have to make a kingdom impact?

2. What is the role of technology in shaping and influencing Generation Z?

3. How can parents help their children develop a biblical understanding of identity and the gospel of Jesus Christ?

Dr. McKnight is the Director of the Global Center for Youth Ministry and Associate Professor of Missions and Youth Ministry at Anderson University and Lead Pastor/Planter of Mosaic Church of Anderson. He is the author of Engaging Generation Z (Kregel) and editor of Navigating Student Ministry (B&H Acaemic).

 Dr. McKnight has pastored churches throughout West Virginia, Kentucky, Alabama, North Carolina, and South Carolina. He's served as an infantry chaplain in the United States Army Kentucky Army National Guard, deploying on Operation Noble Eagle and Operation Enduring Freedom.

Dr. McKnight is also a black belt in Kenpo Jujitsu and a NRA certified basic pistol instructor.

Resources:

www.drtimmcknight.com

Engaging Generation Z: Raising the Bar for Youth Ministry

 

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