Ep. 340: Parenting Through the Stupid Years with Jim Ramos
Many moms and dads are shocked to find out how disorienting it is to parent their young adult children. Our 18-25 year old children still need parenting, but the relational dynamics are very different during these years. Pastor and author Jim Ramos has navigated these years with three of his own children, and shares insights he learned from parenting through this time frame. One of his mentors called the 18-25 year old period of life “the stupid years”, and it can be a terrifying time for a mom and dad as our children seek independence and often drift in their faith while making major life choices.
Listen as Jim shares seven insights from his time of parenting through the “stupid years”. As you listen, you’ll learn why it’s vital to
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Remember that you are the incarnation of Christ to your children
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Pray over your children and pray for their spouses
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Engage with your children - be the rubber band!
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Remember to show them that you love them, and that you LIKE them, with your eye contact and facial expressions
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Understand that when your adult child is out of the house, THEY are now the ones who control the relationship
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Be wise as a parent and avoid being the bulldozer or helicopter parent
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Trust Jesus with your children!
Bio: Jim Ramos is a bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of Men in the Arena, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on equipping men to honor God in the leadership of their family, church, and community.
He hosts the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men, the Men in the Arena Podcast, and has written the #1 Amazon Bestseller Strong Men Dangerous Times.
Jim lives in McMinnville, Oregon, with his wife Shanna. His goal is to live each day to its fullest with courageous abandon according to Jesus’ promise in John 10:10.
Resources mentioned:
The Men in The Arena Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/men-in-the-arena-christian-mens-podcast/id1144237071
Strong Men Dangerous Times: Five Essentials Every Man Must Possess to Change His World: https://amzn.to/3oq8DZV
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Ep. 339: What if I Missed God’s Will By Blowing a Major Decision?
There are times in our lives when we know we’ve made a terrible decision. Sometimes our choice was blatant sin and rebellion, and other times the choice might have just been totally foolish. We know it’s not God’s will for us to sin and it’s not God’s will for us to make foolish decisions. So how do we recover when we know we’ve blown a major decision? Do we miss God’s will for our life?
In this final episode in Jay’s “Knowing and Doing God’s Will” series, Jay talks about the reality of blown decisions and understanding why it’s important to have an eternal perspective on our temporal choices. He shares the hope that we find in Romans 8:28 and the joy of knowing that God’s purposes are not thwarted because of our foolishness or rebellion.
As we come to terms with the reality of bad decisions, Jay gives us a simple pathway forward that will help us back on the right path. Listen as Jay discusses why it’s important for us to:
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Acknowledge our poor choice and repent to God and anyone else affected
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Grieve the loss caused by our foolish decisions
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Seek to make amends if possible
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Trust God’s word, especially Romans 8:28, is true even in this situation
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Minimize the fallout of our poor choice by not compounding one bad decision with another
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Learn from our mistakes and choose more wisely next time!
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Find joy in the grace of God, the humility of our weakness, and the hope that God uses even our worst moments for our good and His glory
Resources mentioned:
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Ep. 338: Tools To Help You Make Decisions When You Don’t Know God’s Will
Where the Bible is clear about God’s will, we must obey. But what about the thousands of choices we have in life where there doesn’t seem to be specific clarity in God’s Word? Do we pause and wait to hear the voice of the Lord? What about the people who seem to constantly say “God told me this?” Are we not walking with Jesus because we don’t have a steady stream of “God told me this?”
As we continue our series Knowing and Doing God’s Will, Jay highlights the many tools God has given us to make wise choices in areas where there are not specific commands from the Lord in Scripture. Borrowing the wisdom of Gary Freison and his book “Decision Making and the Will of God”, Jay walk through the different gifts God has given us that can serve as guideposts for decision making.
Listen as Jay shares how we can make wise decisions using
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The Bible
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An Open or Closed Door
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Mature Council
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A Fleece
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Inner Peace or Tension
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An alignment of passion, skills, and opportunity
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Common Sense
With these gifts, God has given us plenty of resources to make healthy, wise, God-honoring decisions every day of our lives.
Resources mentioned:
The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less by Barry Schwartz https://amzn.to/45qZ8ub
The Seven Checkpoints for Youth Leaders by Andy Stanley: https://amzn.to/3ICSfw1
Decision Making and the Will of God https://amzn.to/3otDepG
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Ep. 337: Maximum Freedom is Found Under God’s Authority
One of the great paradoxes of life is that more choices don’t always lead to a happier life. Never ending choices can be paralyzing. Additionally, many choices give the illusion of freedom on the front end but ultimately lead to entrapment, slavery, and devastating consequences.
As we continue our series on Knowing and Doing God’s Will, today Jay takes about surprising principle: “Maximum Freedom is Found Under God’s Authority”. Jay discusses how there is a beauty in God’s word of eliminating the pressure of unending choices. Additionally, he shows how what may first appear restriction actually produces a greater degree of freedom.
When we choose to seek and honor God’s will in our lives, we are free from many of the devastating consequences of sin, including disease, regret, and destructive relationships. By submitting ourselves to the authority of God’s word and limiting our choices to those God permits, we experience a far greater joy and satisfaction in life, as well as the anticipation of eternal reward for a life that’s pleasing to God.
Resources mentioned:
The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less by Barry Schwartz https://amzn.to/45qZ8ub
The Seven Checkpoints for Youth Leaders by Andy Stanley: https://amzn.to/3ICSfw1
Decision Making and the Will of God https://amzn.to/3otDepG
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Ep. 336: How do I Know God’s Will for My Life?
One of the most common questions for a follower of Jesus is “How do I know God’s will for my life?” Often, these questions revolve around a few major decisions, such as where should I go to school, what should I do for a job, and who should I marry? As we continue our series “Knowing and Doing God’s Will”, Jay lays out the Path of Wisdom for how to determine God’s will for your life, including what one should do if God’s will is not clear.
Relying heavily on guidance from the book “Decision Making and the Will of God” by Garry Freisen and J. Robin Maxson, Jay outlines a Path of Wisdom for decision making that will serve every believer in every circumstance. Ultimately summed up in the phrase “love God and do what you will,” Jay explains the following principles:
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Where God commands, we must obey
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Where there is no command, God gives us freedom (and responsibility) to choose
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Where there is no command, God gives us wisdom to choose
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When we choose wisely, we trust the Lord to work out the details
Resources mentioned:
Decision Making and the Will of God https://amzn.to/3otDepG
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Ep. 335: Knowing God Through Doing God’s Will
Today Jay begins a series on Knowing and Doing God’s will. In this opening episode Jay shares a powerful prayer from Colossians 1 that explains the lifelong connection between knowing God’s will and knowing God. The reality is that God often calls us to follow Him before we know him deeply. It can be hard to trust God enough to obey, but it’s in the path of obedience that we truly meet God and know him on a deeper level.
Listen today as we discuss the lifelong pattern of:
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Being filled with the knowledge of God’s will
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Having the strength and courage to walk in God’s will
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Bearing fruit as we step in faith
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Moving from knowing about God to knowing God
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The fruit of thanksgiving as experience a deeper walk with God
Resources mentioned:
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Ep. 334: What Do I Do When My Children Have Doubts?
Many moms and dads are shocked to find out how disorienting it is to parent their young adult children. Our 18-25 year old children still need parenting, but the relational dynamics are very different during these years. Pastor and author Jim Ramos has navigated these years with three of his own children, and shares insights he learned from parenting through this time frame. One of his mentors called the 18-25 year old period of life “the stupid years”, and it can be a terrifying time for a mom and dad as our children seek independence and often drift in their faith while making major life choices.
Listen as Jim shares seven insights from his time of parenting through the “stupid years”. As you listen, you’ll learn why it’s vital to
-
Remember that you are the incarnation of Christ to your children
-
Pray over your children and pray for their spouses
-
Engage with your children - be the rubber band!
-
Remember to show them that you love them, and that you LIKE them, with your eye contact and facial expressions
-
Understand that when your adult child is out of the house, THEY are now the ones who control the relationship
-
Be wise as a parent and avoid being the bulldozer or helicopter parent
-
Trust Jesus with your children!
Bio: Jim Ramos is a bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of Men in the Arena, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on equipping men to honor God in the leadership of their family, church, and community.
He hosts the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men, the Men in the Arena Podcast, and has written the #1 Amazon Bestseller Strong Men Dangerous Times.
Jim lives in McMinnville, Oregon, with his wife Shanna. His goal is to live each day to its fullest with courageous abandon according to Jesus’ promise in John 10:10.
Resources mentioned:
The Men in The Arena Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/men-in-the-arena-christian-mens-podcast/id1144237071
Strong Men Dangerous Times: Five Essentials Every Man Must Possess to Change His World: https://amzn.to/3oq8DZV
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Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland
Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit http://www.ChristianParenting.org
Ep. 333: Everyday Discipleship Through Regular Rhythms of Life with Caesar Kalinowski
Parents can often feel burdened that discipleship is just one more thing to add to a list of tasks they are already doing poorly. My guest Caesar Kalinowski helps us walk through a framework for discipleship that takes advantage of six regular rhythms of life that are already happening in each of our lives. Listen as Caesar explains how we might disciple our children through:
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Story formation
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Listening
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Celebrating
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Eating
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Blessing
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Recreating
Caesar Kalinowski the host of the podcast Everyday Disciple with Caesar Kalinowski. He is a father, recent grandpa, and has been married to his high school sweetheart, Tina, for over 30 years. He is a serial church planter, coach, and the author of several books, including the top-selling, The Gospel Primer. He has worked in 30+ countries training thousands of people in discipleship and mission as a lifestyle.
Resources mentioned:
Get Caesar’s free resource for parents: The Story of God for Kids: everydaydisciple.com/kids
http://www.everydaydisciple.com
The Everyday Disciple with Caesar Kalinowski Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/everyday-disciple-podcast/id1209249450
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Ep. 332: How Will Chat GPT and the A.I. revolution affect Parenting with Scott Pleasants
At the beginning of 2023 most parents had never heard of Chat GPT, and had given very little thought to how artificial intelligence might affect their parenting. But in just a few short months Chat GPT has amassed over 100 million users. Artificial Intelligence is going to change the landscape on a scale similar to the introduction of the iPhone or the internet. But how? Jay is joined today by Scott Pleasants for a wide ranging discussion on what A.I. is already doing and what might be around the corner. They discuss how A.I. can assist families in incredibly helpful ways as well as the potential dangers of using a technology that randomly produces false information. Scott also shares cautions for students using A.I. for homework and other assignments.
Scott Pleasants is the Director of Information Technology for FBA in Dunwoody and the Strategic Innovation Advisor for Innovate Lynchburg and is the founder of CrossHackers, technology solutions organization focused on helping organizations to see the world “possible”.
Resources mentioned:
jasper.ai
bark.us Screen filtering service
turnitin.com plagiarism protection software
Should My Kid Be Using ChatGPT? https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/should-my-kid-using-chatgpt-barktechnologies/
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