Called to Love Podcast
Jun 17 • 40:37
What Your Adopted Teens Need Most with Susan TeBos
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What Your Adopted Teens Need Most with Susan TeBos

June 17, 2025 • 40:37 • Somer Colbert

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I am joined by Susan TeBos, an author and adoptive mom to three now-grown children. Susan shares her experiences and insights on parenting adopted teenagers, focusing on the unique challenges they face as they process loss and identity. She emphasizes the importance of creating safe spaces for emotional expression, recognizing warning signs, and building trust through consistent communication. Our discussion highlights the need for adoptive parents to be patient and understanding as their children navigate their feelings and experiences related to adoption.

There is a myth that if you adopt a child straight when they are born, take them home from the hospital, that somehow there is no trauma or loss. This isnt true, and I have first hand experience with it. Our kids may exhibit the trauma in different ways or at different stages of life, but there is trauma due to the loss of ones biological roots. Susan described her kids as being fun and playful during their younger years, but showed more of those signs of trauma as they entered puberty. 

I hope that through this episode, you will be more equipped to support your adoptive or foster kids, even if they havent entered their teenage-years yet. 

Here are a few takeaways from our conversation: 

  • Adopted teens process loss in unique ways.
  • Curiosity can lead to clarity and compassion in parenting.
  • Consistency in communication builds trust with teens.
  • Parents should recognize warning signs of emotional distress.
  • It's important to check in with teens regularly about their feelings.
  • Adoptees often feel alone in their experiences and emotions.
  • Grieving is a process that should be shared with parents.
  • Parenting adopted children is a lifelong commitment.
  • Understanding adoption-related issues is essential for emotional support.

Connect with Susan TeBos on Facebook or Instagram 

You can also check out her website and her book, We've Been There: True Stories, Surprising Insights, and Aha Moments for Adopted Teens 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Whether you seek to add to your family through foster care, private domestic adoption or you are called to travel internationally, every adoption story is uniquely beautiful. Yet, each shares a common language of calling, loss, and hardship. As Christian parents we have a deep desire to love and shepherd our children well, but it can be challenging to navigate loss, trauma and how to best love and guide our adopted children. One thing is for sure, adoption is more than a process, it is an invitation to go on a holy journey with the Lord and with your family. Like any journey, there will be valleys along with mountain tops and battles along with the beauty. The good news is, what the Lord calls you to, He will equip you for. Wherever you are in your journey, Called to Love is here to bring you a weekly dose of encouragement from the practical, clinical, and Biblical perspective along with personal stories from adoptive parents, adult adoptees and advice from various experts to help your family thrive in your journey and continue to say "yes " to your own call to love.
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Apr 14 • 40:27
Parenting a Spicy Child

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I was joined by the amazing author and parenting coach, Mary Van Geffen. Since 2011, Mary has coached over 1,700 moms of Spicy Ones, walking with them through the same struggles she once thought would break her. She now has a book titled, Parenting a Spicy One: A Compassionate Guide for Raising a Deep-Feeling and Wonderfully Strong-Willed Kid which prompts todays conversation. 

As parents of foster and adoptive kids, sometimes we have a spicy child - a child who is very emotional, passionate, strongwilled, and maybe labeled as challenging, difficult, stubborn and any other descriptors. It can be extremely taxing and difficult navigating this relationship - what do you do when the kid refuses to brush their teeth or change out of their pajamas? It feels like one battle after another, and it can send our nervous systems into overdrive and survival mode, hijacking us into an overly reactive state because we are at our limit. Mary offers a ton of practical advice throughout this conversation its almost like shes an amazing coach! She has a lot of great insight for shifting our perspective on this spicy little one of ours and how to truly connect with them. 

I am so glad youve joined me for this episode! Lets dive in! 

Key topics in this episode: 

  • Defining a spicy child and their temperament
  • The importance of communication and connection
  • Practical tools for daily parenting challenges
  • The power of repair and forgiveness in relationships
  • Shifting mindset from control to compassion

Connect with Mary on her website or Instagram, and get a copy of her book! 

To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here! 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]

I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

Apr 7 • 34:49
Encouragement for the Overwhelmed Foster Adoptive and Foster Mom

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I was joined by a mom whos message spoke near to my heart and I believe many parents in this calling: Jamie Erickson. Jamie is the busy mama of five kiddos, ages ranging from college to 8th grade, and she also homeschools. She is also an author with a recent book that speaks to my heart, Overwhelmed Mom: Quiet the Chaos, Mind What Matters, and Enjoy Your Life Again.

As adoptive and foster parents (and even just biological parents, of course!), we are carrying a very heavy load and I feel overwhelmed. Jamies book comes at a perfect time in my life and I hope you will also find it encouraging and practical. 

Key topics in this episode: 

  • Types of overwhelm: circumstantial, emotional, and self-inflicted
  • The importance of managing priorities and setting boundaries
  • Practical tips for reducing overwhelm: analog life, digital detox, and community support
  • The role of faith and trusting God in overcoming stress
  • Recognizing physical and emotional signs of overwhelm

Connect more with Jamie on her website

And check out new book and topic of todays episode, Overwhelmed Mom: Quiet the Chaos, Mind What Matters, and Enjoy Your Life Again

To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here! 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]

I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org  to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

Mar 31 • 37:24
How to Live Less Triggered As Adoptive and Foster Families

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I was joined by Dr. Kelly Flanagan. Dr. Kelly Flanagan is an award-winning author, international speaker, personal and relationship coach, and licensed clinical psychologist with two decades of expertise in interpersonal relationships. His thought leadership has been featured in The 5 Love Languages, the TODAY Show, Readers Digest, HuffPost, and Success Magazine. Kellys two non-fiction books, Loveable and True Companions.

He has recently released The Road Less Triggered which is the topic of our discussion as foster and adoptive parents. Dr. Kelly discusses what it means to be triggered in the clinical sense and how we as parents can experience it and our children - biological, adoptive or foster. He also shares his own personal journey and how he overcame his own triggers which were causing destruction in his relationships. This is a great and practical conversation to help us in any stage of this calling. 

Key topics in this episode: 

  • Understanding the clinical and broad definition of triggers
  • Physiological signs of being triggered and interoception
  • Balancing regulation and recognition in emotional responses
  • Empathy and boundaries in trauma-informed care
  • Practical steps for owning moments and teaching children

Connect more with Dr. Kelly on his website

And check out his book, The Road Less Triggered

To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here! 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]

I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org  to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

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Mar 24 • 39:19
You're Not Ruining Your Kids

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I chat with the amazing Abbey Wedgeworth and through our conversation we promise you: you are not ruining your kids!

Abbey is a wife, mother, bible teacher, and writer. She's the author of the Training Young Hearts children's book series, Held, a resource for women who have lost life in the womb, and most recently Help! Im Ruining My Kids: A Gospel Guide for the Mom Whos Desperate for Change. Abbey and her husband, David, live on the South Carolina coast, where she homeschools their three boys. 

In our conversation today, we unpack some of the ideas in her latest book. Abby drops some amazing truthbombs for us as adoptive and foster moms. Sometimes we feel the pressure to do it all and forget that God is in control and sovereign. With this unnecessary pressure, we can feel like were failing and ruining our kids. Abby reminds us that human limitations are not sin. While our role as parent is a large one in our childs life, it is not equal to or as big as Gods role. We are imperfect people trying to raise these broken kids and God knows exactly what Hes doing when He pairs us with them. It will not be perfect and thats where He shows up. Abby says if our kids share their testimony and they share something we did wrong, then praise the Lord because it is part of their testimony! 

Connect more with Abby on her website and Instagram. 

Click here to buy her book! 

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here! 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]

I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

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Mar 17 • 31:02
How to Equip Our Kids to Manage Worry and Anxiety

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I was joined by the amazing author, mother, and ministry warrior Blair Linne. Blair recently wrote a childrens book called, Yara the Brave and the Swirling Worry and any time we have a resource for our adopted and foster kiddos, I want to talk about it! This childrens book is all about anxiety which sparks my conversation with Blair - what is anxiety, how does it manifest physically in us or our kids, what are some techniques to cope or calm down? Those are just a few of the things we cover and all from a Biblical perspective. 

Connect more with Blair online and Instagram

Click here to buy her book! 

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org  to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here! 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]

I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

About the Host

Somer Colbert

Somer Colbert is a writer, speaker and host of the Love Where You Are podcast. She is the Director of Adoption and Foster Care Ministry at Crosschurch and Connected Champion with the Arkansas Baptist Children and Family Ministries where she creates support, awareness and advocacy for families seeking to serve in the areas of adoption and foster care. She creates weekly podcast episodes and resources to equip and empower Christian families to identify their influence for the gospel in every season, live life on mission and share Jesus right where they are.  Somer is passionate about equipping spiritually healthy families and seeing a movement of God’s people step into confidence in their ability to change the world around them through the way they love! 

She resides in Arkansas with her husband, three kids and three dogs. She’s obsessed with British docudramas and cooking shows and can always be found with a cup of hot tea in hand. Her life has been forever changed by the love of Jesus, marriage to her favorite person, parenting her crazy crew and walking multiple adoption journeys. 

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