When your kids trigger you with Sissy Goff
I hope everyone had an amazing 4th of July! We spent the last week in Boston on vacation and it was amazing, exhausting, and everything you can imagine from spending a week with your kids in small spaces. That makes today’s podcast especially timely (for me at least).
Today we have the privilege of hearing from Sissy Goff, a fan favorite when it comes to understanding our kids. Sissy is the Director of Child and Adolescent Counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, Tennessee, and a dear friend to our show.
Sissy is unpacking some important topics to consider during the summer months, and a few issues that are probably cropping up in your home as well as mine.
Here’s a few of the things we discuss:
- Why our kids trigger us and how to manage it
- What our kids need from us this summer
- How to instill confidence in our kids
- Ways to help our kids with friendships
- Teaching responsibility
- Ideas on entitlement and discipline
I’m so grateful you’re with us this week. You’re going to love what Sissy has to offer.
P.S. I’m so excited that our 2022-2023 prayer journal is out! Grab your copy now so you’re ready to hit the new school year running when it comes to praying for our kids. We will be praying the Psalms over our kids and it’s going to be amazing!
Resources from today's show:
More from Sissy Goff:
Raising Boys and Girls Podcast
A Parent’s Prayer Guide: Key Psalms to Pray Over Your Kids
“Best of” with David Thomas and tips for raising boys
This week as a part of our “best of” Pardon the Mess interviews, David Thomas is with us to talk about all things related to our boys.
Picture this: you’re picking up your son from the first day of school after waiting to hear all about his day. Even as he’s closing the car door you begin asking the most critical of questions like... How is your teacher? What friends are in your class? Who did you meet? Did you talk to any girls? What did you have for lunch? Are you tired? Why are you so quiet? Were the kids mean to you?
Apparently unaware of the millions of questions swirling in your mind, your son simply responds that his day was “good.” I feel your pain (like really feel your pain), and David Thomas from Daystar Counseling in Nashville does, too.
David talks with us about our boys’ developmental stages: explorer (0-4), lover (5-8), individual (9-12), wanderer (13-17), warrior (18-23). We also discuss the best ways to communicate and connect with our boys, which apparently does not involve barraging them with questions the second they get into the car (my bad).
So glad you’re with us today.
Resources from today’s show:
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
“Best of” with Jennie Allen and the heart of friendships
We’re using the next several weeks to release some of the “best of” Pardon the Mess interviews. With over 300 episodes and lots of new listeners, we don’t want any of you to miss a thing.
Today we’re re-releasing our conversation with Jennie Allen on the lies we believe about friendships.
Jennie shares what she now knows about friendships, what they are, what they aren’t, and what impedes us from the God-given deep connection we so desperately need.
Here are some of the great topics we discuss when it comes to finding your people:
- The different roles our friendships play
- What to look for in friends
- Putting yourself out there
- Choosing a fire pit over Netflix
- Noticing who is already around you
- Decisions in our careers, neighborhoods, and family that impacts friendships
Don’t miss this much-needed conversation on the importance of our friendships and reminders that finding community is not impossible with a little bit of intentionality.
Resources on today’s show:
Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
“Best of” with Ken Wilgus talking about parenting teens
I hope you’re enjoying summer and hopefully getting a little extra time with your kids!
The next few weeks we’re going to be sharing some of the “best of” Pardon the Mess interviews. Hard to believe we’ve released over THREE HUNDRED episodes! With so many new people joining along the way, we want to be sure you didn’t miss some of our favorite interviews.
Today we’re re-releasing our conversation with licensed psychologist Ken Wilgus, and he is talking with us about parenting teens.
If you don’t have a teen yet, no worries, because you can never prepare too early for navigating the treacherous waters of adolescence (just kidding—kind of).
Dr. Wilgus shares his ideas behind “planned emancipation,” the strategy of preparing our kids for adulthood by carefully and progressively letting go of our control in key areas of their lives.
We talk about this in the context of giving freedom in the music they listen to, the friends they pick, and even the state in which they keep their rooms.
Glad you’re with us today!
In this with you,
Cynthia Yanof | Pardon the Mess
Resources from today’s show:
Feeding the Mouth that Bites You book
Feed the Mouth that Bites You podcast
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
The Art of Getting it Wrong with Stephen and Amanda Miller
Imagine having seven children and living in an RV. I know, I can’t either. Stephen and Amanda Miller are doing just that and today we get a sneak peek into their lives!
In his new book, Art of Getting it Wrong, Stephen reminds us that our failures are not final, and that it’s in those same failures where we learn to live courageously. It’s so easy to think our worth is equal to the sum of our successes and failures, but Stephen and Amanda help us dispel that notion and encourage us to follow God’s lead.
We also talk about adoption and finding God’s calling in our lives, and the Millers detail how God is using YouTube and their millions of downloads (literally) to point people back to him.
Thankful to each of you for joining us and can’t wait for you to hear from the Millers!
Resources from today's show:
Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
Let’s talk about books for our kids . . . Part 2
Hey Friends,
I often get questions on books I would recommend for our kids and honestly, more often than not, I draw a blank.
That’s why today’s bonus episodes of Pardon the Mess are dedicated to some of our very favorite authors and the children’s books they have written. These are books you can trust and your kids will love. Below you’ll find overviews of the books as well as links to the podcasts where we get the behind the scenes scoop with the authors.
Let’s start with our younger kids (ages 4 to 8) and a conversation I had with Tricia Goyer and Amy Parker about their wonderful book, The Grumbles: A Story about Gratitude. Gratitude is a much needed quality in our kids, and this book (and our conversation below) provides great reminders for summertime.
Another great book for our littles is Claire and Anna Avidon’s, I Can Do Hard Things. These two ladies chat with us about refinement, perseverance, and encouraging our kids to take the hard road when God calls us to it.
For our older kids (think ages 8-12), there’s a great devotional by Sarah Humphrey and Amy Parker called Solomon Says Devotional: 100 Days of Wisdom from the World’s Wisest King. Based on Solomon’s life, the book offers amazing lessons on peer pressure, finding your voice, living in confidence, and so much more. Sarah gives lots of wisdom in our conversation, so don't miss it.
My last recommendation in this bonus episode is for girls ages 8-12, and it’s all about friendships. The ladies from The Ruth Experience remind us of our need for deep friendships and the importance of being present, not setting up artificial boundaries, and being willing to invite others into our lives. Their book, 100 Daily Acts of Friendship for Girls is a great one for helping our girls navigate friendships.
I hope these resources are a huge help to you! Grab a book and guide your kiddos well this summer.
Resources from today's show:
The Grumbles: A Story about Gratitude by Tricia Goyer and Amy Parker.
I can do hard things by Anna Avidon and Claire Avidon.
Solomon Says Devotional: 100 Days of Wisdom from the World’s Wisest King by Sarah Humphrey and Amy Parker
100 Daily Acts of Friendship for Girls: A Devotional by Julie Fisk, Kendra Roehl, and Kristin Demery.
Let’s talk about books for our kids . . . Part 1
Hey Friends,
I often get questions on books I would recommend for our kids and honestly, more often than not, I draw a blank.
That’s why today’s bonus episodes of Pardon the Mess are dedicated to some of our very favorite authors and the children’s books they have written. These are books you can trust and your kids will love. Below you’ll find overviews of the books as well as links to the podcasts where we get the behind the scenes scoop with the authors.
Let’s start with our younger kids (ages 4 to 8) and a conversation I had with Tricia Goyer and Amy Parker about their wonderful book, The Grumbles: A Story about Gratitude. Gratitude is a much needed quality in our kids, and this book (and our conversation below) provides great reminders for summertime.
Another great book for our littles is Claire and Anna Avidon’s, I Can Do Hard Things. These two ladies chat with us about refinement, perseverance, and encouraging our kids to take the hard road when God calls us to it.
For our older kids (think ages 8-12), there’s a great devotional by Sarah Humphrey and Amy Parker called Solomon Says Devotional: 100 Days of Wisdom from the World’s Wisest King. Based on Solomon’s life, the book offers amazing lessons on peer pressure, finding your voice, living in confidence, and so much more. Sarah gives lots of wisdom in our conversation, so don't miss it.
My last recommendation in this bonus episode is for girls ages 8-12, and it’s all about friendships. The ladies from The Ruth Experience remind us of our need for deep friendships and the importance of being present, not setting up artificial boundaries, and being willing to invite others into our lives. Their book, 100 Daily Acts of Friendship for Girls is a great one for helping our girls navigate friendships.
I hope these resources are a huge help to you! Grab a book and guide your kiddos well this summer.
Resources from today's show:
The Grumbles: A Story about Gratitude by Tricia Goyer and Amy Parker.
I can do hard things by Anna Avidon and Claire Avidon.
Solomon Says Devotional: 100 Days of Wisdom from the World’s Wisest King by Sarah Humphrey and Amy Parker
100 Daily Acts of Friendship for Girls: A Devotional by Julie Fisk, Kendra Roehl, and Kristin Demery.
Digital safety in our homes with Chris McKenna
Are you overwhelmed with technology?
Do you wonder how to keep your kids safe while also teaching them to use it responsibly?
Have you wished for a biblical perspective on digital safety that goes hand in hand with the practical?
For me it’s yes, yes, and yes.
Today we have Chris McKenna with us and he’s the founder and CEO of Protect Young Eyes. We’re talking about a digital trust framework for our families and practical tips for keeping our kids safe. He’s giving us ideas on router filters, appropriate ages for kids to have phones, and important conversations to have while they are still under our roof.
Today is a big drink of water for those of us thirsty for technology answers!
Resources from today's show:
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Praying for our kids: Wrapping up the school year with Bunmi Laditan
It’s hard to believe that way back on September 13th of last year we began praying our kids through the school year and that today is our last day!
We’ve prayed for our kids to have connection, purpose, salvation, humility, and countless other attributes of our faith. Many of you have been with me each step of the way as we’ve asked the Lord to stand in the gap of our parenting while also drawing our kids to him. I’m so grateful.
This week is our very last week of the school year, and Bunmi Laditan is joining us to wrap it up. Please, please don’t miss this last week because Bunmi is amazing and you will love her. Also we are finishing up our year talking about why we pray for our kids, how to do it well, and how to respond even when we don’t see the answers we are praying for.
Bunmi has a new book out this summer on prayer, and it would be a great way to pray for your kids the next few months before we kick things off again in September. Speaking of the next school year, (drum roll please) we’re praying the Psalms over our kids, and I cannot wait to see how God uses this study to lead our families closer to him.
So thank you for praying with me this school year. Thank you for always sharing these podcasts with your friends and small groups. And thank you for allowing Pardon the Mess to speak into your parenting each week. I’m truly blessed to walk the road with each of you who want to love the Lord well in your parenting.
P.S. The prayer journal for the 2022-2023 school year will be available starting in July. Listen to Pardon the Mess on Thursdays for more information on how to grab a copy for you and your friends.
Resources:
To learn more about Bunmi Laditan, check her out here!