Living Wholehearted

August 29, 2023

Episode 196: Reset – Getting Beneath the Surface to See Real Change with Debra Fileta

Every year, people make new year’s resolutions. It’s August, and by this time, most of us have probably forgotten what they were! There is a reason most people don’t change their lives and their habits. Our guest for this episode, Debra Fileta, is an expert in this arena. In today’s conversation we are going to get under the hood and talk about how to actually change your habits with a reset. 


As a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in relationship issues and mental health, Debra Fileta knows that to achieve effective, long-lasting change, you have to know and understand what is happening on the inside. In her book, Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life, Fileta walks readers through 31 powerful and sustainable practices that will reset the way things have been done in the past in order to dive beneath the surface and bring insight to their thoughts and feelings, ultimately changing their life. 


Debra is the author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love in Every Season!, Are You Really Ok?, Married Sex and RESET. She’s also the host of the Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog reaches millions of people each year with the message of healthy relationships.


As mentioned in this podcast, if you are a woman in the greater Portland, Oregon, area and you want a headstart on your “reset”, join us for a contemplative prayer day at the Living Wholehearted Lodge & Retreat on September 22.  Learn more and register at Limited spots available.


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Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life (Harvest House Publishers, March 14, 2023)




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Jeff & Terra


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We define a leader as anyone with a following. Whether you are a parent or a CEO, or both, how you lead matters. When a leader lives with integrity, everyone in their wake benefits. And when they don't, everyone in their wake pays, it's just a matter of time. We are a husband and wife team HELPING LEADERS of all types LIVE WITH INTEGRITY through Biblical, Clinical, and Relational Wisdom. The Living Wholehearted Podcast is filled with grace, hope, and practical tools to help you in every relationship that matters most to you in your home, work, and community. Become a leader who is shrinking their integrity gap between what you say and how you actually live. Join us in the movement of becoming a Wholehearted Leader!

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About Jeff and Terra Mattson

Jeff Mattson (MA ORL) and Terra Mattson (MA LPC, LMFT) are Christian Parenting spokespeople and the co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast in the Christian Parenting Podcast Network.


After two decades studying and working in leadership and trauma-informed therapy, Jeff and Terra are bridging the gap between Biblical, clinical, and relational wisdom to help leaders live with integrity in the home, work, and community.


They are the co-founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling and organizational development firm. Terra is the author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace and together they co-authored Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between what Leaders Preach and Live. Jeff and Terra have skin in the game as they raise their two daughters just outside Portland, OR on five acres of old growth woods. There is never a dull moment in the Mattson home!


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