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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I am joined by a joyful and light-filled author, speaker, and mom: Alice Matagora. Alice shares her story about a painful waiting process, depending on Gods promises. Inspired by this waiting journey, as a new mom Alice wrote the book, You Are My Miracle. All children are a miracle from God and this book helps us affirm this truth over our children. Through our conversation, we discuss the miracle it is to be a parent, to raise our kids, and the challenges of the waiting process till that child enters our life. 

Here are a few key take aways: 

• Waiting can be emotionally taxing and filled with uncertainty.
• There can be a lot of grief in infertility. 
• It's important to seek God during times of waiting and uncertainty.
• Community support is crucial for those going through infertility or adoption processes.
• Every child is a miracle, regardless of how they come into a family.
• The journey of waiting can lead to personal growth and deeper faith.
• Parents should communicate to their children how loved and wanted they are.
• It's essential to remember the struggles of waiting even after fulfillment.
• Hope is a continuous journey, not just a destination.

Connect more with Alice on Instagram and Facebook. 

Check out her website to learn more! 

Here is her book referenced in this episode, You Are My Miracle

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You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I am joined by the amazing and inspiring Jamie Finn. Jamie is an author and busy mom to both biological and adopted children, and their family has been fostering for years. She is also the founder and president of Foster the Family, a national nonprofit that serves vulnerable children and the families welcoming them, as well as the founder of the Filled Gathering, the largest gathering of foster and adoptive moms in the world. 

Together, we discuss adopting children from foster care. There is a huge stigma against foster kids, being labeled as problematic and an underlying fear that you cant handle their pain and trauma. There is also the fear of becoming attached to a foster child only for them to be reunified, even though reunification is the first priority of foster care. There are many more fears and apprehensions, so how do we face them as Christians, standing on Gods Word and His calling for us to care for the least of these? 

One big point is we are all called to love these kids, but that doesnt mean everyone is called to adoption or fostering. You can start by supporting those who already are! This may be a small thing but it is huge to the families who desperately need this support and community. And if God does call you into this, you may find yourself with support and community because you served others. Another key point Jamie and I discuss is surrendering to God in this calling. You have no control over what happens and that may be scary but it strengthens your faith. There is also so much beauty in adoption because God has adopted us. 

Here are a few key takeaways: 

• Foster care is a mission that requires commitment.
• Fear is a natural response to the unknown in foster care.
• Preparation is key, but you can never be fully ready.
• Reunification is the priority, but permanency is also important.
• Grief is a complex emotion in foster care.
• God's love is constant, even in brokenness.
• Community support is essential for foster families.
• Surrendering control is a part of the journey.
• Children need to see a model of unconditional love. 

Connect more with Jamie on Instagram or her website. 

Check out Jamies book: Foster the Family: Encouragement, Hope, and Practical Help for the Christian Foster Parent

Check out Jamies new book for foster kids: God Loves Kids: A Gospel-Centered Book About Foster Care

You can check out Christian Parentings gift guide by clicking here. 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

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In this episode, I am joined by Leah Brandon Akannam and Brian Murphy from the Gift of Adoption Fund. One of the biggest things stopping people from pursuing adoption is the cost. Resources like the Gift of Adoption Fund are here to bridge the gap and take down this barrier to a child finding their home. 

We discuss the different ways the fund helps various circumstances from traditional adoption to kinship, foster-to-adopt, and even adult adoptees. Leah and Brian also share stories from the families impacted by this resource. Brian highlights that while their organization does a lot, there are plenty of funds out there as well, and the biggest thing is spreading awareness about these resources so children can find a home. Brian emphasizes that if this is something God has laid on your heart, He will ultimately provide the financial support you need to bring the child homeall you have to do is answer the call.  

Here are a few key takeaways: 

• Over 2 million families in the US are waiting to adopt.
• 81% of potential adopters cite high costs as a barrier.
• Gift of Adoption has awarded over $22 million in grants.
• Adoption costs can range from $25,000 to $50,000 for domestic adoptions.
• Foster care adoptions typically have no costs for families.
• Gift of Adoption provides grants from $1,000 to $15,000.
• Families should apply for assistance as soon as their home study is complete.
• There are no strict income limits for eligibility; each case is assessed individually.
• The organization has programs for young adults aging out of foster care.
• Crowdfunding grants are available to help families raise funds for adoption.

The Gift of Adoption Fund website: https://giftofadoption.org/ 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I am joined by the founder of Finally Home: Kristin Orphan. Finally Home exists to walk alongside foster, adoptive, and kinship families with faith-rooted resources that bring hope, healing, and strength. They are a national non-profit that provide tools, courses, resources and community to families so they can find connection and confidence every day. 

Kristin was inspired to start Finally Home after her own adoption journey and being devastated by the calling. God called her and her family to this but that didnt make it easy. There was a lot of sacrifice, heartache, and learning through her journeyin fact, the journey isnt over even though her children are adults! In this conversation, we discuss how God brings encouragement when youre discouraged or depressed. 

Here are a few key takeaways: 

• The importance of unity in marriage when considering adoption.
• Adoption is a lifelong commitment that requires ongoing support and learning.
• Resilience is key in parenting adopted children, especially through challenges.
• Community support is crucial for families navigating adoption.
• Trauma-informed care focuses on relational connection with children.
• Distraction techniques can help manage challenging behaviors in children.
• Parents should seek to understand their child's unique needs and responses.
• It's important to give children a voice in family decisions without placing the burden of choice on them.
• The journey of adoption can lead to personal transformation for parents.
• God is WITH you in this calling! 

Learn more about Finally Home and access all their parenting courses and more at https://finallyhome.net/ 

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You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, I am joined by Hally Wells. Hally Wells is speaker, author, and mental health advocate. After struggling with infertility, Hally and her husband had their biological child, but following a miscarriage she felt God place adoption on her heart. She is now the mother of bio, step, and adopted children, and advocates for their mental health and the mental health of parents too. 

Hally discusses what things to look out for in our adopted and fostered kids, some of the warning signs, and unique struggles they may face with identity. We also discuss the need for support, resources, counseling, and strong communication with your children. Hally brings up that adoptive parents can also experience trauma which is why it is important to take care of yourself too, so you can be a calm, strong presence in your childs life. 

Here are a few key takeaways: 

• Mental health concerns in youth have escalated, especially post-COVID.
• Adopted children often experience grief and identity issues.
• Trauma impacts all adopted children, even from in utero and birth. 
• Parents should be aware of signs of mental health struggles in their children.
• Support groups for adoptive parents can provide essential encouragement.
• Cultural heritage plays a crucial role in a child's identity and mental health.
• Open communication is vital for adopted children to express their feelings.
• Counseling can be beneficial for both children and parents.
• Understanding the unique challenges of adopted children is essential for effective parenting.

Learn more about Hally Wells on her website here: https://www.hallyjwells.com/ 

The book Hally recommends, The Anxious Generation 

Another book she recommends, The Deepest Well 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!