Fostering Medically Fragile Children

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, my special guest is an unusual one for this show but still speaks relevant truth to us as adoptive and foster parentsespecially fathers. My guest is Trey Tucker, the founder and owner of Rugged Counseling, known for providing therapy without the fluff. He is a mental health expert and social media influencer, specifically targeting young men to help them live out their God given purpose. His counseling and videos resonate because they challenge passive, surface level advice and speak honestly about responsibility, identity, boundaries, and purpose. He is also now an author with a book titled, Tough Enough: Hone Your Habits, Cultivate Purpose, and Forge Genuine Strength. 

Our conversation today stems around how fathers can step up in their role with foster and adoptive children, and how mothers can support their husbands, too. I ask Trey a lot of questions around the husband and fathers experience, their mental health journey, and some of it parallels what we know traumatized kids experience: feeling isolated, purposeless, and unseen. Fathers are vital in the household but can be often misunderstood. This conversation benefits both husband and wife, father and mother, as they are united in this calling. 

Here are a few key takeaways: 

• Defining Biblical manhood
• The insecurities many men face and dont voice 
• How men can be resilient and possess emotional strength
• What wives can do to support their husbands  

Trey Tuckers new book: Tough Enough: Hone Your Habits, Cultivate Purpose, and Forge Genuine Strength. 

Trey Tuckers website

Trey Tucker on YouTube

Trey Tucker on Instagram 

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! This is part two to an incredible conversation

In this episode, my special guest is an adult adoptee named Niemah Scherlacher. Niemah is currently working on a book detailing her incredible adoption story, but we are honored to hear her share pieces of this story on the podcast. She is now a retired and happy grandma, but her story begins in Israel, after being born to a fifteen year old Palestinian girl. As Niemah describes, God protected her mother and her during this tumultuous time between Israel, Palestine and even the United States, and He orchestrated everything so Niemah would be adopted at the age of two and brought over to the states.

 Niemah also shares her experience as an adopted child in her family, how the church community interacted with her, and the secular world. Niemah encourages parents to talk with their children about the childs story because the child is always wondering those questions but might be afraid to ask them. Niemah had an unusual experience when compared to other adoptees because she primarily wrestled with God in her later years after more information was revealed about her birth mother

 Here are a few key takeaways:

     Naima's story is a testament to God's divine intervention.

     Adoption can be a celebrated aspect of a child's identity.

     Open communication about adoption is crucial for children.

     Children often think about their adoption, even if they don't express it.

     It's important for adoptive parents to initiate conversations about identity.

     Healing from adoption-related trauma can be a lifelong journey.

     Understanding a child's background helps in parenting.

     Adoptive parents should not be too hard on themselves.

     Children's struggles can be transformed into hope for others.

     God's purpose is at work in the lives of adopted children.

Niemah is still working on her book so follow her on Facebook and Instagram to stay connected!

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

 To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here!

 You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected].

 I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! This is part one to an incredible conversation

In this episode, my special guest is an adult adoptee named Niemah Scherlacher. Niemah is currently working on a book detailing her incredible adoption story, but we are honored to hear her share pieces of this story on the podcast. She is now a retired and happy grandma, but her story begins in Israel, after being born to a fifteen year old Palestinian girl. As Niemah describes, God protected her mother and her during this tumultuous time between Israel, Palestine and even the United States, and He orchestrated everything so Niemah would be adopted at the age of two and brought over to the states. 

Niemah also shares her experience as an adopted child in her family, how the church community interacted with her, and the secular world. Niemah encourages parents to talk with their children about the childs story because the child is always wondering those questions but might be afraid to ask them. Niemah had an unusual experience when compared to other adoptees because she primarily wrestled with God in her later years after more information was revealed about her birth mother 

Here are a few key takeaways: 

• Naima's story is a testament to God's divine intervention.
• Adoption can be a celebrated aspect of a child's identity.
• Open communication about adoption is crucial for children.
• Children often think about their adoption, even if they don't express it.
• It's important for adoptive parents to initiate conversations about identity.
• Healing from adoption-related trauma can be a lifelong journey.
• Understanding a child's background helps in parenting.
• Adoptive parents should not be too hard on themselves.
• Children's struggles can be transformed into hope for others.
• God's purpose is at work in the lives of adopted children.

Niemah is still working on her book so follow her on Facebook and Instagram to stay connected! 

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org  to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here! 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. 

I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, my special guest and friend is Cynthia Yanof, who has been featured on this podcast before. Cynthia is the biological mother to two kids who have flown the nest, one graduated from college and one just starting, and her family also adopted a son who is in third grade. Cynthia stays busy not just as a mom but as a podcaster, speaker, and author. Her latest book, Howd I Miss That? sparks a lot of todays conversation. 

It is so easy to get distracted as a foster or adoptive parent by all the busyness and urgent tasks of life, and I wanted to take a minute with Cynthia to focus on what really matters in this calling. A lot happens in life, a lot of distractions or even too much information, so lets get back to the basics. Somewhere along our journeys, God opened our eyes to loving children who are not our own. How do we do this well? Cynthia offers advice gained from her own experience, along with humor and gut-punches (the good kind!).

Here are a few key takeaways: 

• Understanding what really matters as parents is crucial.
• Little differences in our actions can lead to significant impacts.
• The urgent tasks in life often dont have an eternal impact.
• Finding humor in parenting challenges can ease stress.
• If youre going to laugh about it later, laugh about it now
• Community and support are essential for foster and adoptive parents.
• Being a 'namer' helps children understand their identity in Christ.
• A reluctant 'yes' to God's calling can still lead to great things.
• The Lord is faithful and will reveal Himself in our journeys.
• Life is short; we must not miss the opportunities God gives us.

You can learn more about Cynthia Yanof on her website

You can follow her on Instagram

You can check out MESSmerized with Cynthia Yanof click here

You can find her book on Amazon or wherever you shop for books! It is called, Howd I Miss That?: Gas Pump Confessions, Drive-Thru Obsessions, and Figuring Out What Really Matters

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org  to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here! 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. 

I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! 

In this episode, my special guest and friend is Christie Erwin! Christie is an author, adoptive and biological mother, and Founder and current Executive Director of Project Zero. Christies deep love for children led her and husband, Jeff, to become foster parents in 1993, for a private, non-profit adoption agency. It was there that the foundation for Christies passion and driving concern for children in foster care was laid. After fostering for eleven years with the private agency, the Erwins became foster parents for the Arkansas Department of Children and Family Services in 2004. They fostered over fifty children during their twenty years of fostering. She wrote the book, The Middle Mom How to Grow Your Heart by Giving it Away. 

In our conversation today, Christie shares part of her story in adoption and foster care. There is so much to tell, we couldnt go over everything, but we covered a lot. Christie also offers advice for you if youre saying Yes! to this calling. 

Here are a few key takeaways: 

• Christie's journey into foster care began with a powerful calling from God.
• Maintaining a healthy marriage is crucial when navigating the challenges of foster care.
• The concept of being a 'middle mom' emphasizes the importance of loving children unconditionally.
• Grief is a part of the sacrifice when fostering and adopting children.
• Understanding a child's past is essential for effective parenting in adoption.
• Preparation for adoption includes understanding trauma and its effects on children.
• It's important to make God's voice the loudest in your calling.
• Community support and resources are vital for foster and adoptive families.

You can learn more about Project Zero and Christie Erwin! 

Christian Parenting resource for you: Morning Minute

Subscribe now at MorningMinute.org  to receive each weekday morning a verse to strengthen your spirit, one parenting insight grounded in Christ-like wisdom, one short action item to guide your heart and your kids and one resource to help you go deeper.

To submit your prayer requests, use this form by clicking here! 

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at [email protected]. 

I would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!