When you want more for your life, but feel stuck with Farrell Mason
May 9 • 39:46
When you want more for your life, but feel stuck with Farrell Mason
Episode:

When you want more for your life, but feel stuck with Farrell Mason

May 9, 2024 • 39:46 • Courtney DeFeo

If you are a parent, you know the feeling of just making it through each day. So often, we want more for our lives. However, we feel stuck and are not sure how to do that when there are children depending on us every day.

My guest this week, Farrell Mason, shares about a time when she felt that her life was running her ragged. She decided to do something about how she lived her one precious life. She took action to create a more soulful life in the midst of raising six kids. Farrell Mason is a minister, a mom, a wife and a beautiful writer. She has a passion for standing with others in the midst of their hardest moments in life.  

My favorite part is towards the end when Farrell offers very practical suggestions on how to love others well. She is so passionate about caring for yourself as a mom, but also leaning into simple ways we can care for our neighbors. You wont feel guilt or more pressure to perform - you will feel seen and inspired to lean into more for your life.

In this episode we chat about: 

  • How to live this one life well
  • How to push against busy and impossibly full schedules
  • How to pay attention to what your soul craves 
  • How to help your hurting friends 

Enjoy!

Connect with Pardon The Mess:

Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

Resources from todays show:

Farrells Site - Bread and Honey

Farrells new book: Soulfull

Come Home

Chapters:

00:00

Introduction and Connection

09:50

Living a Full Life and the Importance of Time

16:22

Commitment to Intentional Living

32:21

Finding Hope in Difficult Times

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Introduction and Background

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30:28

The Need for Aggressive Treatment

39:07

The Healing Journey and Future Hope

48:17

Prayer and Encouragement for Mothers

Connect with Pardon The Mess:

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Courtney DeFeo

Resources from todays show:

Never Alone Widows 

Father's House Bible Study

There is More podcast 

Podcast with Rachels daughter about her eating disorder - Part 1

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Reverend Joanne Moody

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Todays guest is my dear friend, Joy Phenix, who bravely shares her journey of losing her amazing son. Her story of loss and indescribable grief is so very hard to hear but oddly peaceful and sacred. 

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Introduction and Catching Up

09:16

The Power of Community in Times of Loss

15:30

Finding Hope and Healing Through Faith

28:25

Cherishing Memories and Finding Healing

34:38

Vulnerability and Trust in Difficult Times

Enjoy!

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Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

Resources from todays show:

Joshs Celebration Service

Joys Instagram

Body Keeps The Score

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This engaging couple shares many great pieces of wisdom and insight during our episode, but I really enjoyed how they speak about conflict. Its so easy to avoid conflict at all costs. They encourage us to utilize conflict for the greatness of marriage 

My favorite part (or least favorite) was when Michael Jr. asked me to share honestly about a recent disagreement I had with Ron. He went through the list of the fruit of the Spirit to see how I was handling a specific situation. And I bombed his test. It was embarrassing, but really challenged me on how I handle conflict. I love their hearts for marriage. They have a passion to remind couples that marriage is GOOD and it does work.

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Chapters

00:00

Introduction and Family Background

04:04

Letting Go and Trusting God with Our Children

08:54

Faith as a Consistent and Visible Part of Family Life

23:53

Merging Talents to Help Couples Find Joy in Marriage

29:19

Revealing Areas of Freedom Through Conflict

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Resources from todays show:

Funny How Marriage Works

Assessment for your conflict resolution 

Emotions Wheel

Funny How Marriage Works Tour

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Chapters00:00

Introduction and Catching Up

10:01

Stories of Love and Connection Around the Table

22:59

Building Relationships with New Neighbors and Introducing Sarah's Dad

27:02

Caring for Aging Parents with Love and Compassion

30:53

Closing Remarks and Action Items

Connect with Pardon The Mess:

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Resources from todays show:

Sarahs Instagram

Neighbors Table

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Table Talk Questions - source Close To My Heart

Kindness Diaries with Leon

Leon Logothetis

Gods Holy Spirit in Me kids devotional

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BONUS: Marked by Mission

Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age. Matthew 28:1920

 

Weve spent this school year praying for our kids to be marked by the things of God. Weve prayed that they live with integrity, confidence, generosity, endurance, and much more. But these are nothing more than admirable qualities if they arent used for Gods kingdom purposes.

 

Before Jesus ascended to heaven, he gave us our mission. He told us to go and make disciples, sharing the story of his grace and love.

 

The Great Commission is our central mission. The same is true for our kids.

 

Were Gods Plan A for spreading the gospel. Theres no backup plan, theres no contingency, and theres nobody else to tag in for our spot.

 

But it all starts at home. It happens in the seemingly insignificant moments of reading Bible stories to our toddlers and the really hard places of pointing them to Jesus on the heels of their biggest mistakes and greatest obstacles.

 

Please let us never underestimate the significance of our jobs as moms and dads, discipling our kids to share the gospel to the next generation.

 

Lets wrap up this school year by praying that our kids will be marked by the mission of Jesus, doing it with truth, discipline, purity, and every other characteristic of God weve prayed over them this year.

 

Lord, thank you for the gift of my children and the privilege of praying over them this school year. Please mark their lives with a determination to fulfill the mission you created for them before they were ever born. Give [name] the wisdom to pursue you every day and a spirit of urgency in following your plans for their life. 

Gods word speaks: 1 Peter 2:9; Mark 16:15; 1 Peter 3:15; Ecclesiastes 12:1314

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About the Host

Courtney DeFeo

Courtney DeFeo is the NEW host of Pardon the Mess! She is the author of In This House, We Will Giggle and Treasured and creator of ABC Scripture Cards and the kindness movement, Light ‘Em Up Acts. She loves to encourage parents and women through speaking, writing, and podcasting. She also serves on the board of For Girls Like You and Lighthouse Family Retreat. Her deepest desire is to encourage others and give generously in a way that draws people to God.

Her most honorable mention is her husband Ron and their two wildly fun girls (Ella, 16 and Larson, 14). Courtney is passionate about Jesus, coffee, Auburn football, Coca-Cola classic, her dog Mazie, spending time with friends and family, and finding deals at TJ Maxx. Although they have lived in Atlanta and Orlando, they currently reside in the DFW area. Courtney’s family loves to serve at Compass Church, travel together, and consume large amounts of table-side guacamole. Connect with Courtney on Instagram or visit CourtneyDeFeo.com.

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