The hard truth about loneliness with Stacey Morgan - Story 5
Jul 4 • 44:53
The hard truth about loneliness with Stacey Morgan - Story 5
Episode:

The hard truth about loneliness with Stacey Morgan - Story 5

July 4, 2024 • 44:53 • Courtney DeFeo

Happy July 4th!

This weeks story features my friend, Stacey Morgan, who is an astronauts wife! Her life is truly fascinating. Her family is currently living in the Marshall Islands which is 5 hours south of Hawaii. 

Stacey honestly shares the truth about loneliness. She has had to start over multiple times as a military spouse. I love her hard truth about loneliness: we have to make the first move. She also shares how her kids are thriving as they were uprooted from the cultural norm in Texas, and now live on an island with 1,200 people total. They are learning valuable life lessons about whats most important.

My favorite part is at the very end when she talks about her top learning as a mom of over 20 years. Her encouragement to let go was really timely for me. I am having trouble letting go of my oldest who is a rising senior. I need that reminder over and over again. 

In this episode, we chat about:

  • How to navigate marriage when you are both strong leaders
  • How to start over when you move into a new city (or island! :)
  • Why community matters in motherhood
  • How to make friends as an adult woman 
  • What to do when youre deeply lonely

Chapters

00:00

Introduction and Background

02:47

Moving to the Marshall Islands

05:58

Supporting a Spouse's Career

11:04

Living in a Small Community

15:01

Transition and Loneliness

23:57

Supporting Military Spouses and Moms

26:30

The Importance of Community for Military Families

31:16

MomCo: Supporting Military Moms

39:19

Lessons in Trust and Letting Go

44:28

The Power of Grace and Understanding in Parenting

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Resources from todays show:

Stacey Morgans site 

Staceys Instagram

Staceys Book: The Astronauts Wife

MomCo - Military Meetups

How to start an online MomCo group

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Jul 18 • 38:04
Adopting kids & traveling the world with Erin Burchik - Story 7

Welcome to Week 7 of our Summer of Stories series! This Summer we have been featuring stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through lifes most challenging moments. 

In this weeks story, you will hear from the delightful, creative and intentional Erin Burchik. She is a family friend and I have long-admired her approach to parenting. She desperately wants to enjoy each of her kids and embrace the good ole days of kids in the home. She will share how traveling and taking trips became a passion of hers. And she will share some super practical ways to make trips doable and affordable when youre on a budget.

Before we get to the scoop on traveling for less, she shares her story about becoming a mom. Through many trials and some devastating financial loss, Erin has fought through doubt and frustration with God. She felt called to adopt and then it didnt go as smoothly as she had hoped. Its so fun to see her on the other side of this battle and see the family that God designed from the very beginning. 

My favorite part is when she explains the WHY behind their family adventures. Shes not traveling to flex on Instagram or show off or waste money. Shes traveling because she wants to create memories with her kids, to carve out time to adventure together and to get out of their comfort zone. I love her approach!

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Erins journey to motherhood - foster care and adoption
  • How to find community with other adopted families
  • How to exchange gifts for experiences at Christmas
  • How to find creative ways to do big trips on a little budget

Enjoy!!

Courtney

Chapters

00:00

Introduction and Background

04:02

The Journey of Adoption

08:57

Building a Supportive Community

18:13

Creating Lasting Memories

20:05

Santa Bringing Christmas Trips

22:10

Maximizing Credit Card Points

25:29

Saving Thousands on Family Trips

28:21

Benefits of Traveling with Kids

30:15

Building Independence and Confidence

33:31

Enjoying Motherhood and Savoring the Moments

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Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

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Resources from todays show:

StrongHeart

Erins Instagram

Erins travel site - Points For Families

Erins book - Animals of the Nativity

Erins book - The Bear Hug

TBRI for families that have adopted

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Jul 11 • 42:37
Do I have a drinking problem or thinking problem? With Jenn Kautsch - Story 6

When I engage with young moms, I often get asked a lot about alcohol. These women are wanting me to give them an official answer about how a Christian woman should handle alcohol. And I often dont have the specific answer they want - because it is so often in the gray area. And only the person asking the question knows whats going on under the issue.

Todays story is about a mom that got curious about her relationship with alcohol in her early 30s. As you hear her story, you will be inspired to take an honest assessment and just get curious about your relationship with alcohol. She called it getting sober minded. 

Although I dont drink - I have my own vices which we discuss. I joke about my love of the phone, cookie dough and TJMaxx. If Im honest, I often use those to outsource my comfort. This isnt an episode for moms that drink - this is an episode for all of us. 

My favorite part is when Jenn shares about the benefits of operating in a sober mind. She reminds us that being present with our kids is worth the fight. Lets lean into Jenns story together and be brave enough to hear what God is nudging us to do in response. 

Dont forget to check in our Jenns community called Sober Sis and utilize all of the fantastic resources that are helping thousands of women become sober-minded and enjoy this life to the fullest!

In this episode we chat about: 

  • Jenns journey with alcohol and finding a sober-minded life
  • How to pay attention to what God is saying to us directly
  • How to get curious about areas of addiction in our lives
  • How to fight for presence with our families 

00:00

Introduction and Connection

02:33

Early Years and Introduction to Social Drinking

05:46

The Influence of Mommy Wine Culture

07:41

Outsourcing Comfort and Dealing with Anxiety

09:44

Questioning the Relationship with Drinking

12:30

Understanding the Mindset and Motivations Behind Drinking

19:28

Questioning Your Relationship with Drinking

21:57

Introduction: Jenn's Journey of Sobriety

25:08

The Importance of Addressing the Root Cause

28:40

Taking the First Step: Sobriety Curiosity

33:28

Shifting Mindset: Gaining, Not Giving Up

39:11

The Power of Community in Sobriety

42:59

Personal Growth and Sobriety

45:07

Conclusion: Encouragement for Moms

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Christian Parenting

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Courtney DeFeo

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Resources from todays show:

Pardon the Mess is part of The Christian Parenting Podcast Network. As a donor funded ministry, we rely on generous supporters like you to keep this show going. If you enjoy this podcast, please consider giving a gift today. Join the Christian Parenting Legacy Builders community

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Jul 4 • 44:53
The hard truth about loneliness with Stacey Morgan - Story 5

Happy July 4th!

This weeks story features my friend, Stacey Morgan, who is an astronauts wife! Her life is truly fascinating. Her family is currently living in the Marshall Islands which is 5 hours south of Hawaii. 

Stacey honestly shares the truth about loneliness. She has had to start over multiple times as a military spouse. I love her hard truth about loneliness: we have to make the first move. She also shares how her kids are thriving as they were uprooted from the cultural norm in Texas, and now live on an island with 1,200 people total. They are learning valuable life lessons about whats most important.

My favorite part is at the very end when she talks about her top learning as a mom of over 20 years. Her encouragement to let go was really timely for me. I am having trouble letting go of my oldest who is a rising senior. I need that reminder over and over again. 

In this episode, we chat about:

  • How to navigate marriage when you are both strong leaders
  • How to start over when you move into a new city (or island! :)
  • Why community matters in motherhood
  • How to make friends as an adult woman 
  • What to do when youre deeply lonely

Chapters

00:00

Introduction and Background

02:47

Moving to the Marshall Islands

05:58

Supporting a Spouse's Career

11:04

Living in a Small Community

15:01

Transition and Loneliness

23:57

Supporting Military Spouses and Moms

26:30

The Importance of Community for Military Families

31:16

MomCo: Supporting Military Moms

39:19

Lessons in Trust and Letting Go

44:28

The Power of Grace and Understanding in Parenting

Connect with Pardon The Mess:

Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

Get your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of Faith

Resources from todays show:

Stacey Morgans site 

Staceys Instagram

Staceys Book: The Astronauts Wife

MomCo - Military Meetups

How to start an online MomCo group

Pardon the Mess is part of The Christian Parenting Podcast Network. As a donor funded ministry, we rely on generous supporters like you to keep this show going. If you enjoy this podcast, please consider giving a gift today. Join the Christian Parenting Legacy Builders community

Our Sponsors:
* Check out Seed and use my code 25MESS for a great deal: seed.com
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Jun 27 • 47:21
From blindness to healing with Kylie White - Story 4

If she wasnt one of my best friends, I dont know if I would believe this story. However, it is true and real and incredibly powerful. My friend, Kylie White, was fully healed from near blindness. Her story and her miracle has exploded my faith the last several years. It has given me courage to pray bigger prayers. 

I will never be over what God did for Kylie. Even though Ive heard this story many times, I heard even more details during this conversation which exploded my faith yet again. God is so good. Im truly excited for us all to have this reminder today through Kylies story.

My favorite part is hearing how she got to the miracle day. Listen closely as she shares the years leading up to her miracle. Lean into what God was pressing on her heart. And lets lean into what God wants to say to you through her story. What is He asking you to release and surrender? What miracle do you believe is too far gone? 

In this episode, we chat about:

  • Kylies miracle story and healing 
  • How we can trust God and lean in when we dont understand the full story
  • How to parent the pain endured with adoption
  • How to love our kids unconditionally 

Dont forget to share the Summer of Stories with your friends - so that they can also be reminded that: God is good. You are not alone. And He is with you during lifes hardest moments.

Chapters

00:00

Introduction and Catching Up

03:35

Adoption and Navigating Challenges

06:45

Parenting and Unconditional Love

09:40

Experiencing a Modern-Day Miracle

28:13

Asking for Healing

30:14

Miraculous Healing

35:23

Confirmation of Healing

39:26

Orphan Prevention and Untold

42:19

Lessons Learned as a Parent

Connect with Pardon The Mess:

Christian Parenting

Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

Pardon the Mess is part of The Christian Parenting Podcast Network. As a donor funded ministry, we rely on generous supporters like you to keep this show going. If you enjoy this podcast, please consider giving a gift today. Become a Christian Parenting Legacy Builder

Resources from todays show:

Kylies Instagram

Kylies blog

Untold - Nonprofit Kylie supports

Fathers House - Bible study by Rachel

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Jun 20 • 39:38
One unplanned pregnancy and the God-sized story that followed with Amy Ford - Story 3

Welcome to Week 3 of our Summer of Stories series! For the next 10 weeks, you will hear one powerful story after another. We are featuring 10 stories of incredible moms that have endured significant challenges. Through these stories, we pray you will remember that God is faithful and always with you through lifes most challenging moments.

I need everyone to take a massive deep breath before listening. And listen to the entire episode, not just the first few minutes. This is not a political episode. This is a story of one incredible mom, Amy Ford, that chose to keep her baby boy after an unplanned pregnancy and the God-sized story that followed. 

My favorite part is when she shares about her love for the women that walk with the shame of abortion. She is for all women and all stories. And she walks closely with women who have endured every part of the unplanned pregnancy journey. 

I am praying deeply that this story reaches an untold number of women and heals their hearts in a special way. And that we may join together and support women with unplanned pregnancies in the way God would. That we would love them deeply. 

Don't forget to share this episode with women in your community that need encouragement and healing around unplanned pregnancies.

In this episode we chat about: 

  • Amys unplanned pregnancy 
  • Amys encouragement for those who live with shame of abortion
  • How to create a safe and supportive church environment with unplanned pregnancies
  • How to turn towards God in some of lifes biggest mistakes or struggles

Chapters

00:00

Introduction and Amy's Family

03:34

The Love Box and Volunteer Opportunities

06:08

The Rejection from a Pastor and the Healing Journey

09:21

The Impact of Amy's Story on Her Son

14:35

Creating a Safe and Supportive Church Environment

19:28

Healing and Hope After Abortion

22:26

Creating Safe Spaces in Churches for Unexpected Pregnancies

26:34

Taking Small Steps of Obedience

29:15

Celebrating Women Who Turn Towards God

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Pardon The Mess 

Courtney DeFeo

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Resources from todays show:

Amy Ford

Embrace Grace

A Bump In Life

Love Box

Support After Abortion

Our Sponsors:
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About the Host

Courtney DeFeo

Courtney DeFeo is the NEW host of Pardon the Mess! She is the author of In This House, We Will Giggle and Treasured and creator of ABC Scripture Cards and the kindness movement, Light ‘Em Up Acts. She loves to encourage parents and women through speaking, writing, and podcasting. She also serves on the board of For Girls Like You and Lighthouse Family Retreat. Her deepest desire is to encourage others and give generously in a way that draws people to God.

Her most honorable mention is her husband Ron and their two wildly fun girls (Ella, 16 and Larson, 14). Courtney is passionate about Jesus, coffee, Auburn football, Coca-Cola classic, her dog Mazie, spending time with friends and family, and finding deals at TJ Maxx. Although they have lived in Atlanta and Orlando, they currently reside in the DFW area. Courtney’s family loves to serve at Compass Church, travel together, and consume large amounts of table-side guacamole. Connect with Courtney on Instagram or visit CourtneyDeFeo.com.

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