The cost of controlling our relationships

The cost of controlling our relationships

My middle son, Coen, is constantly breaking his toys. Not on purpose, but by forcing them to bend in directions they were not designed to bend. He…


Navigating a new family

Navigating a new family

It takes courage to walk into a ready-made family and love someone else’s children…and someone else’s husband. You see, I married a widower with two…


The tug-of-war between parents and adult children

The tug-of-war between parents and adult children

Being the parent of an adult child is like playing tug-of-war.  As a parent, part of you knows when to set your child free to live their own lives.…


Honoring your mother-in-law

Honoring your mother-in-law

My mother-in-law and I are complete opposites. She’s extroverted and loves to talk. I’m introverted and prefer to listen. She loves big family…


Four ways God equips us to love our in-laws

Sometimes it’s easy to consider our in-laws as exceptions to the rules of biblical wisdom.  We’ll apply certain passages to every other relationship…


Talking with your kids about dating and relationships

My daughter, Monica, came home one day after grammar school and announced, “When I see boys I want to hug them and kiss them.” Then the question,…


Children Are Complex

One of our daughters has such a sweet, tender heart, and for a while that's all we saw in her. She served others, prayed for others, and read her…


Heart-Knot Deposits

A friend and I were wade fishing on the Buffalo National River in northern Arkansas when a feeling of dread came over us. It was a fabulous spring…


Can I Really Trust God?

I stood in front of the busted-up walls, amazed by all I never knew was behind them. Wires. Pipes. Support beams. Insulation. It all stood out so…