Episode 186: Dads, Daughters & Anger with Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield

Are you a dad who struggles with anger? Do you have a daughter? Do you want to learn from one of the leading experts on dads and daughters? This podcast episode is for you!

 

Michelle Watson Canfield, PhD, LPC, is a national speaker, author, licensed professional counselor of 27 years, and founder of The Abba Project, a nine-month group forum for dads whose daughters are in their teens and 20s. She writes guest articles regularly for journals and magazines (online and print), as well as her own bi-monthly Dad-Daughter Friday Blog, and has been interviewed on numerous radio and television programs.

 

Her best-selling book, Dad, Here’s What I Really Need From You: A Guide for Connecting With Your Daughter’s Heart, is followed by her most recent field guide for men, Let’s Talk: Conversation Starters for Dads and Daughters (both available on Audible). She has also written contributing chapters in Fathers Say and How to Disciple Men.

 

Dr. Michelle is the radio/podcast host of The Dad Whisperer and The Dad Whisperer Podcast, which is available on her website and on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, and Google Podcasts. She also co-chairs the Father-Daughter Initiative at the National Center for Fathering with her husband, Dr. Ken Canfield. They reside in Fayetteville, Arkansas, near their tribe of 24, which includes five children, three sons-in-law, two daughters-in-law, and 16 grandkids.

 

Dr. Michelle helps us understand what anger is doing to the relationship, what anger is really about, and then what to do with it. She offers sound clinical resources for any dad who wants to do this job well. We are here cheering you on, dads!

 

Need more support? Go to livingwholehearted.com for information about counseling or coaching with us.

 

To connect with Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield, go to:

 

Email: [email protected]

Website: drmichellewatson.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/drmichellewatson 

Instagram: michellejwatson and thedadwhispererpodcast 

Twitter: @mwatsonphd

LinkedIn: Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield

Podcast: The Dad Whisperer - Apple, Google, Stitcher, Spotify

 

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We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. 

And…

If you’re a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.  

 

Until next time, be the leader you would follow!

 

Grateful for you,

Jeff & Terra

 

To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:

 

INSTAGRAM

@TerraMattson

@Living_Wholehearted

@MyCourageousGirls

 

FACEBOOK

@WeAreLivingWholehearted

@MyCourageousGirls

 

WEBSITES

LivingWholehearted.com

TerraMattson.com 

MyCourageousGirls.com

 

RESOURCES

Shrinking the Integrity Gap 

      https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/

      https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii

Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course 

      https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses

Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace

      https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace

Dear Mattsons 

      https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l

Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters 

      http://cpguides.org

 

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The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit http://www.ChristianParenting.org

 


Episode 185: Blended Families - the rebirth after death of a spouse or divorce with Bo Stern and Cliff Brady

Going through the loss of a marriage after the death of a spouse or divorce is very difficult. And then trying to blend a family and create something new adds a whole other layer. The average blended family takes at least 7 years to blend, so today - if you hear anything, we hope you hear grace for the journey as we talk with a couple who truly gets this assignment. We have Cliff Brady and Bo Stern today. You might have heard Bo share last month about suffering well. Bo is the author of Beautiful Battlefields, When Holidays Hurt, and Ruthless. She has been a pastor for a few decades and speaks nationally. Cliff is a business consultant with a variety of expertises. Together, they have 10 children and 6 grandchildren! And yes, their last name is Brady. Bo and Cliff share candidly about their caution to remarriage, how they transitioned toward dating, and the conversations they had with each of their 10 children. They share their observations on how they see divorcees treated differently in the church than widows. They believe people shouldn’t need to earn the compassion of others - single parenting is hard! As you tune in, you'll gain some beautiful insights into how to keep your marriage first in the midst of lots of children, and the core values Bo and Cliff believe are helping them have a healthy blended family (despite the many hurts they all experienced along the way). Whether you are grieving the loss of a spouse (through death or divorce), considering remarriage, or currently blending a family, this episode is for you. And honestly, if you are leading blended families or wanting to better understand the needs of your friends, this episode is for you too!

 

To connect with Bo Stern-Brady, visit:

 

ONLINE - 

bostern.com

 

SOCIAL - 

Instagram - instagram.com/bosternbrady

Facebook - facebook.com/bstern

 

BOOKS - 

Beautiful Battlefields 

Ruthless

When Holidays Hurt

 

OTHER - 

Writer for the SoulSpace app 

 

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We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. 

And…

If you’re a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.  

 

Until next time, be the leader you would follow!

 

Grateful for you,

Jeff & Terra

 

To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:

 

INSTAGRAM

@TerraMattson

@Living_Wholehearted

@MyCourageousGirls

 

FACEBOOK

@WeAreLivingWholehearted

@MyCourageousGirls

 

WEBSITES

LivingWholehearted.com

TerraMattson.com 

MyCourageousGirls.com

 

RESOURCES

Shrinking the Integrity Gap 

      https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/

      https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii

Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course 

      https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses

Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace

      https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace

Dear Mattsons 

      https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l

Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters 

      http://cpguides.org

 

Living Wholehearted is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit http://www.ChristianParenting.org


Episode 184: What women need to know about finances and divorce with Amy Oliver

Today we want to talk about what women need to know before they consider divorce. There are a lot of confusing messages - especially in the church - about divorce. It’s hard because marriage is meant to be a beautiful image of God’s covenant with His people - what the Bible calls the “Bride of Christ”. We see this marital covenant reflected throughout scripture. We are for marriage and as a marriage and family therapist, I have spent decades helping good and hard marriages heal and repair. However, restoring a marriage where trust and commitment have been violated requires two parties. And there are times, when a spouse has to choose divorce because of unrepentant or repeated adultery or abuse. Many times women will stay because they are unsure they can survive financially. Often, leaders in the church are unsure how to help these women with practical steps. Though men can find themselves in this situation, today, for the sake of clarity, we will be talking mostly about women. We have Amy Oliver, of Healing House Solutions, with us today. She knows what it’s like to feel stuck in an unhealthy marriage and not see a financial way out. As a licensed realtor, Amy began by helping women in similar circumstances evaluate whether to keep or sell a family home, taking into consideration not just the financial, but the emotional aspects of that decision too. With the addition of training in divorce financial analysis, she guides and advocates for women as they assess their full financial picture, including budgets, assets, liabilities, child support, and spousal support needs. In this episode, Amy talks about the four reasons most women find themselves in this place: abuse, abandonment, adultery and addiction; the most common concerns women are facing; why women often stay in these toxic relationships; the biggest myths about divorce, and so much more.

To connect with Amy Oliver, visit the following:

ONLINE - https://www.healinghousesolutions.com/about

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We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. 

And…

If you’re a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.  

If you’re  a female leader, consider applying for the Women’s Wholehearted Leadership Cohort. This is a one-year Cohort that runs from July 2023 through June 2024 and is limited to 12 women. Uniquely designed for female leaders, this is a holistic trauma-informed leadership development experience. It includes 10 individual coaching sessions with LW executive coaches, 6 group coaching sessions and 2 two-day retreats in the Willamette Valley of Oregon. The application is open through June 10. Go to livingwholehearted.com/cohort for more information.

 

Until next time, be the leader you would follow!

 

Grateful for you,

Jeff & Terra

 

To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:

 

INSTAGRAM

@TerraMattson

@Living_Wholehearted

@MyCourageousGirls

 

FACEBOOK

@WeAreLivingWholehearted

@MyCourageousGirls

 

WEBSITES

LivingWholehearted.com

TerraMattson.com 

MyCourageousGirls.com

 

RESOURCES

Shrinking the Integrity Gap 

      https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/

      https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii

Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course 

      https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses

Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace

      https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace

Dear Mattsons 

      https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l

Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters 

      http://cpguides.org

 

Living Wholehearted is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit http://www.ChristianParenting.org


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Her Story of Grace with KathyGrace Duncan: Part 1

We live wholehearted when we bring all of who we are (mind, body, soul, and relationships) before God and others. We love sharing such stories of grace and hope with you! Listen in as KathyGrace Duncan shares her story reclaiming her female birth name 27 years ago after living as a man for 11 years. Hers is a story of freedom through her relationship with Jesus. Though much of what KathyGrace shares may be controversial in today's culture, her story reminds us all that there is more to our identity formation than meets the eye. She is currently the Women’s Ministry Leader at Portland Fellowship in Portland, OR where she facilitates discussion groups, co-leads a small group, mentors and teaches. She is also the Chairwoman of the Portland Fellowship Board of Directors.

If you want to hear more of KathyGrace's story, make sure you subscribe to our podcast to tune in next week for Part 2. You can also visit www.courageousgathering.com to download her breakout where she unpacks more of her story and answers common questions today. Feel free to email KathyGrace directly for your questions, at [email protected]  For more books and resources, check out the Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender. with Dr. Preston Sprinkle.


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A Season for Everything

Listen as Terra unpacks the importance of both rest and play in the life of every leader. In light of the topic and season, we have decided to take a few weeks off to practice what we preach and to enjoy some family time and relaxation in the great Northwest. With a few weeks off from the podcast, we encourage you to take the time to review some of your favorite interviews or use the time to digest the InCourage 2020 Gathering - an incredible resource gathering with over forty incredible experts speaking on topics we need to talk about. Go to www.incouragegathering.com to get your ticket! All sessions and breakouts will be on demand from July 10 to July 31st. After two years of planning, we are excited to see women finally gather all over to lean into who God says He is and who He says we are. Enjoy!

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Courage, Mentorship & Diversity with Ebony Clark & Julia Adebawo

 Get ready! Terra's conversation with Ebony Clarke, MSW, LCSW and her niece, Julia Adebawo, is going to challenge and encourage you. Ebony & Julia share from both expertise and personal narrative, unpack the gift of mentorship, the importance of knowing our stories, and valuing the diversity God has created to reflect His very image. These two brilliant women of color, from two different generations, guide us into deeper conversations and increased compassion for all the pain caused from years of racial injustices.  Ebony Clarke, MSW, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker who has 20 years of experience working in both publicly funded and non-profit mental and behavioral health arenas including services and supports, leadership, organizational development, people management, equity and inclusion.  She has worked on local, county, and state government initiatives around diversity, equity and inclusion. She has a coaching and consulting practice, raising two sons, Matteo and Miles, and is married to her husband Matt. Julia Adebawo is a Nigerian female leader who now lives in Oregon, where she finished her college degree at OSU. She is passionate about being a voice for her people and has a very unique vantage point I think you will be honored to hear. Listen in... For more from Ebony, check out her breakout session on "Unity Through The Power of God's Love" at the InCourage 2020 Gathering. www.incouragegathering.com  You can follow Julie Adebawo on instagram.   To educate yourself around issues of systemic racism, especially toward the black community, click here for a list of books, podcasts, and more.

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The Impact of Fathers with Drs. Ken Canfield and Michelle Watson-Canfield

In honor of Father's Day, we had the privilege of interviewing a powerhouse couple and dear friends, Drs. Ken Canfield & Michelle Watson-Canfield. They are both authors and experts on fathers. Dr. Michelle is the founder of the Abba Project and the Dad Whisperer radio host. Ken has authored over a dozen books on fathering and grand parenting, starting the National Center for Fathering and grandkidsmatter.org Learn more www.kencanfield.com and http://www.drmichellewatson.com. Pre-order Dr. Michelle's newest book: Let's Talk: Conversation Starters for Dad's and Daughters.  Dr. Michelle Watson-Canfield is speaking on Healing Our Father Wounds for our national women's simulcast on July 10 & 11. Get a group of friends or family together to experience this one-of-a-kind women's gathering and forty breakout speakers. www.incouragegathering.com

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Healing From Sexual Brokenness with Dr. Sheri Keffer: Part 4

We are finishing up our series on sexual wholeness. As we conclude, we need to talk about how partners heal from the trauma of betrayal.  We are so grateful to share with you an incredible resource, Dr. Sheri Keffer! Not only does she have the credentials to back up her wisdom, she has the personal experience that shapes her heart, compassion, and call to this life work.

Dr. Sheri is a regular cohost of the nationally syndicated radio talk show New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million people each week. For nearly twenty years, she’s worked as a Doctor of Marriage and Family therapy in Newport Beach, California. Through her own personal story of recovery Dr. Sheri understands the trauma symptoms often associated with sexual betrayal and with extensive trauma training, she brings new tools and a fresh look at what’s needed not only to heal but heal well.

Dr. Sheri is a keynote speaker and recipient of 2019 IITAP Outstanding Publication Award for her book Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal, Founder of BraveOne.com, the new BraveOne Community, and Bravery After Betrayal: It Takes Fierce Strength retreat where she unpacks how betrayal affects the mind, body, spirit, and sexuality. Dr. Sheri also holds a degree in theology from Fuller Theological Seminary.

You can register for the InCourage 2020 Gathering to hear more from Dr. Sheri Keffer, one of our outstanding breakout speakers. Visit www.incouragegathering.com to learn more! If you have a ticket by the end of June, you will be entered to win a signed copy of Dr. Sheri's book. All winners are announced @incouragegathering.

You can also follow Dr. Sheri on social media @drsherikeffer.

Make sure you share this podcast with someone who needs this message and feel free to leave us a review. You can visit us at www.livingwholehearted.com or follow Terra @terramattson to learn more about what we are up to in the days ahead!


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Sexual Wholeness Series with Jay Stringer: Part 3

In part 3, we had the honor of interviewing researcher, therapist, minister, and author, Jay Stringer. Jay wrote Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healingwhere he took his ground breaking research of over 3,800 men and women and addresses the key drivers of unwanted sexual behavior, including use of pornography, infidelity, or buying sex. Jay helps us discover the core of the struggles and key practical steps toward healing. If you are weary and tired of white knuckling your way through life or love someone who is struggling in this area, this podcast is for you!   You can find @jay_stringer on Instagram or on Facebook under Jay Stringer or go to his websites www.jay-stringer.com and www.thejourneycourse.com for more resources! Don't forget, our first book is on PRE-ORDER today, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach & Live . We are so excited for what this resource will bring to leaders and their families.