Flip the script

Written by Lisa Clark
Published on June 26, 2020

I equated it to being punched in the gut. 

My day was going swimmingly, then all of the sudden, out of nowhere,  my daughter dropped a bomb in my lap that took my breath away and caused me to forget where I was for a minute. 

Have you been there? I bet you have.


Flashcards.  I remember the day like it was yesterday.  My precious and perfect 4-year-old came home from preschool asking me, in all innocence, “Mommy, what are flashcards? My teacher says that I need them” 

“What? She said what?” I replied!

So evidently, they played a game that day called Around the World.  Everyone sits in a circle and the first person says 1, the second person says 2, and so on.  Well, when it was her turn to say her number she froze, didn’t know the next number and…well, the teacher mentioned she might want to get some flashcards

Tears poured from my concerned baby. Tears poured from me because my baby is perfect

After I put things in perspective. . .we got the flashcards. 

But those explosions called “real life” can rock our world. And they typically take us straight down the road called worry

Here’s how you get there: turn right at “where did I go wrong,” then make a sharp left before “how can I fix this,” and you’ll end up at Worry Lane. 

We tend to stay on Worry Lane until things settle down and get back to normal, or we move on to another kid’s problem. 

We’re moms and we like to fix things, especially our children. We want them to be happy. In fact, I think there’s a saying that goes something like: “I’m only as happy as my happiest child.” 

It’s sad but true. We like our children to be happy. And more often than not, we allow that narrative to determine our happiness as well.

Big issues and big people

Flashcards are one thing. 

But who to go to homecoming with, what classes to take, rumors, and failing grades, these struggles all fall into the “this is life” category.

As we work through them, we might cry with our children. We will definitely empathize with them because we have been there and we remember their pain. It’s hard to grow up. 

However, big issues accompany big people. As our kids grow, so do their problems. 

The last time I was faced with a big kid (meaning—young adult) problem, I found myself in unfamiliar territory. As I cried out to the Lord, I heard him sweetly say: “Lisa, you need to flip the script. Instead of heading to Worry Lane, you need to anticipate what I am going to do with joy and expectation.”

To which I replied: “Huh?” 

He gently recalled Philippians 4:6–7 to my mind, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” 

As I stood, tears running down my face, I was smiling. I was smiling and full of faith, not worried or anxious, just expectant. 

The enemy’s script

Our tendency is to be anxious and worried when our child is hurting or in the midst of a trial. My flesh says curl up in the corner and wring your hands until somebody tells you everything is going to be okay. Then choose to believe them because who else are you going to believe? 

We need a microwave answer to our problems because we are a microwave society

I like to worry because that’s the least I can do. Otherwise, what can I do? And therein lies the problem: When prayer is not my first defense, it’s my backup plan and worry bypasses God. 

The enemy has a script

And it had found its way into my parenting hands. It was a script that was jumbled up, crinkled, tear-stained, and remained hardly legible. But I continued to use it. Why? Because it was familiar and gave me some sort of direction.

We need to use caution in our lives as parents. Too often we’re reading from a script that is generically written by the world for parents, directing us to control all outcomes for our children’s good, at any cost. 

That script doesn’t leave room for the Holy Spirit to work. Control is placed solely in our hands, and we weren’t meant to control things. Our self-reliant attempts set us up for failure and leave our kids in the dust. 

Anticipate, expect, and know

That day, Jesus firmly held me and said: “Not this time. Flip the Script.”

Trusting God strengthens our faith. Walking in truth (Jeremiah 29:11) enables us to look up and know that God is sovereign, loves us, and will make all things good (Romans 8:28).

So the next time your kiddos come home with news that makes you want to crawl back into bed for the day (or a week), flip the script

Anticipate, expect and know that God loves your child more than you. 

He has this. And he has you. 


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Lisa Clark

A seasoned speaker, Lisa Clark has been teaching and speaking at churches, schools, and community groups throughout D/FW for the past 25 years. Her love for teaching women began at church, in particular bible study. She loves studying God’s word and imparting wisdom on women of all ages. Quickly, she realized biblical parenting was her niche and God led her on a grand journey of teaching moms how to raise their children by His word.  

This led her to partner with Sky Ranch Christian Camps in 2007 and the development of SkyMoms Ministry with her friend and Sky Ranch CEO, Linda Paulk. Lisa has a unique teaching style, coupling humor and personal stories of raising her own two daughters with biblical insights. Grounded in God’s Word, Lisa has a passion for encouraging moms in the day-to-day struggles of parenting preteens and teens.  

This passion and mission led her to write her very first book in 2016, Raising SinnersRaising Sinners is a biblical parenting, short story written for moms and dads in all stages of parenting. 

In 2018, Lisa and Chrissie Dunham launched The Wonder Podcast. She and Chrissie, along with weekly guests, discuss all things pertaining to life. You never know what the topic will be and that keeps things fun and energetic, with an overarching goal of encouraging their listeners to draw closer to God and to never lose their wonder.

2021 brought a new partnership and opportunity for Lisa and Chrissie, as they joined forces with the Christian Parenting Podcast Network, and launched their newest podcast, Raising Sinners! Lisa and Chrissie discuss all things parenting in this new venture hitting the airwaves September 2021. 

Lisa is married to Brad, her husband of 35 years. She and Brad co-teach a young married life group at their home church in Plano, TX. They have two daughters, Caroline and Camryn. Caroline and her husband, Brent, lead a ministry in Norman, Oklahoma called Crossover, and they are the proud parents of 3 boys, Revan James, River Jude and Bodie Job.  Camryn is married to Brett and they reside in Dallas. They are the proud parents of 2 boys, Ezra Clark Young and Miller Hill Young.

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