5 quick truths about raising Christian kids in a non-Christian world

Written by MIriam Conner
Published on July 10, 2020

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” —Romans 12:2

How do we teach our kids to be “salt and light” (Matthew 5:13–14) while not being conformed to this world? 

This is hard for adults, let alone kids!

I want my kids to have Christian and non-Christian friends. I want them to be that salt and light and be a positive influence. We know that is easier said than done many times. 

How can we teach our kids to have non-Christain friends and be that salt and light without compromising their standards and Christian values? 

Are your kids strong enough to do this? 

You have to know your kids individually. Some kids are confident and strong enough and can remain leaders, while others may not be ready for that quite yet.

Consider these truths and share them with your kids:

  • It is going to be hard. This can be hard for adults too. You have to be strong and unwavering in your faith and values.
  • It can, and most likely will, be lonely. God does not promise you will be the most popular person in school, but you will be respected by others—and by yourself.
  • A few good and true friends are better than many who are not. (This goes for adults too!)
  • We are all sinners; we are just saved by grace. God loves all of us the same.
  • Teach your kids to be non judgemental while staying true to who they are.

Action Steps

  • Model it. Live it. Remember: they are watching and learning from you no matter how old they are.
  • Talk about it in constant communication and learning opportunities.
  • Be open with them. Share your struggles from your past and present.
  • Pray! Pray for them and with them and for their friendships.


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MIriam Conner

Miriam holds a Master of Education degree and has over 20 years of experience in education. She has been married to her husband Ryan for 28 years and has three kids- Callie 16, Coby 13, and Carlie 8. Miriam has a passion for parenting and kids and hosts aParently Speaking- a podcast all about parenting.

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