12 Vital Things for Parents to Say to Their Gay Child

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“My young adult just  told me he’s (or she’s) gay. Now what?” This inquiry used to be a rare one. This past month I have spoken to three different moms seeking answers to this very question. Broken-hearted, lonely, and confused, they are looking for camaraderie, comfort, and clarity. Empathy and compassion I have in full…

When Your Children Grieve

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In January, a sixteen-year-old girl from my community was tragically killed in an ATV accident. But she was not one of those unknown faces or names that we see on the news every night. It was a classmate and teammate of my own kids, a dear friend that they lost suddenly. Because my children attend…

One Family’s Unusual Adoptive Journey [Excerpt]

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Our family makeup is unique. If I were to see my family out in public, I’d be curious and probably stare a bit. So rather than be easily offended or pretend to be normal, we try to face it with openness, grace, and a little humor. We chose to adopt two kids with Down syndrome…

How Whispering Got My Kids’—and My—Attention

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My kids aren’t listening, and I’m worn out. Lately our habits (theirs and mine) have gotten pretty ugly. They don’t listen. I yell. It doesn’t help. I get mad. I yell more. They finally hear and give me the “what is your problem, crazy lady?” stare. I lecture. They try not to roll their eyes. We all…

Good News for Bad Parenting Days

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Babies cut teeth and kids get sick. All children forget homework assignments or permission slips, and choose to exert their free will in public at the worst times. Kids get hurt, disappointed, lazy, and angry. Kids have bad days and usually want parents to “share their pain.” There are some days when parents crawl into…

Am I Raising Judgmental Kids?

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As I’m soldiering through these tween years, I have a new respect for mommas who’ve raised well-balanced, know-right-from-wrong adults who also have a deep, true genuine love for everyone. It’s not easy. Here’s how this has played out in our house: We teach them our core values. The things we want to stick. The things…

If Your Child Is Different, Read This Book [A Review]

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“If your son continues with his behavior, we will need to ask you to find other schooling options,” the letter read from the principal. My husband and I had spent two years praying and correcting, but no matter how many parenting books we read and tried to apply, the notes sent home from school continued:…

Kids and Giftedness with Kathleen Fischer [Video]

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This clip from the Say Something Show features Kathleen Fischer’s wisdom on kids and their unique gifts. Kathleen Fischer, RN author, life-coach, educator, and mother of three, has specialized in adolescents for over thirty years. She has worked in public health, taught in high school as well as at the university level, and encourages parents through…